We have been married for last many years. I have always been doing whatever he wanted in life. I left my country and my family for him. His family has been very rude to me, but he never said anything to them. He wants me to stay happy and not to feel depressed. I don't know what to do?
2006-11-27 15:17:48 · 10 answers · asked by carol r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What do you want?
Start doing for you too...you count!
Look in that Mirror and Say today is My day....and do it.
For you to be happy you have to start with yourself...he cant make you happy.
As far as his family.....ignore them....be kind to them...however iggy their rudeness....Two wrongs dont make it right.
After you have found yourself...and begin living for you...then move forward and decide what is right.
Best wishes
2006-11-27 15:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you to stand up and become an independant woman. If you have two trees growing while leaning on each other it a weak connection because if one tree is removed the other immediately falls. If two trees are growing side by side and not leaning but growing indepentantly, the connection is magnified. If one of the trees is removed the other still stands strong. Are you prepared for the journey that has been prepared for your personal,emotional, and necessary growth as a human being? Get ready, set, go!
2006-11-27 15:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a self centered A**hole to me. A marriage should be a equal union between a man and a woman. The sole goal in a man's life is to love, and care for his wife. And he should be considerate of her feelings. There's alot of giving in a marriage, You should want to do whatever it takes to make your spouse happy. And your spouse, him/her, always comes before your family. So sounds like You need to give him a big reality check, or find a way for someone who he will respect, to give him advice on the matter.
2006-11-27 15:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by Adam S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 1/2 of this marriage--so you need to speak up! If he loves you, he SHOULD care how his family treats you, and more importantly, how HE treats you.
From watching my parents, I know marriage is a lot of work. No spouse is ever perfect, but he should at least respect you! Try talking to your spouse, or maybe seek marriage counseling @ a local church or clinic? Communication is so key to any relationship.
I hope you find your peace & happiness. Good luck.
2006-11-27 16:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life, there are things called hidden agendas. Action also speaks louder than words. What goes on on the inside will show on the outside. You need to stop fooling yourself. Don't let any one treat you like a yo-yo. Some times, in life, we have to teach people how to treat us. Take control or be controlled. He who fights and run away, lives to fight another day. If you don't take care of you, you can't take care of any one else. Learn to know when to listen to your heart and follow it. Cheers to taking command of your life without violating the rights of others. Life is for the living not the functional.
2006-11-27 15:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by havenfishblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope your not working to help him through school, training or anything like that too (if so get out now). And he should stand up for you to his family, he's really being rude and thoughtless. I would have a serious talk with him.
2006-12-01 14:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him how you feel and get him to understand what you are saying. you need to stand up for yourself more and don't let him continue to walk all over you like he seems to be doing. if you don't say what is on your mind and how you feel about everything, or else you will never be happy. tell him that you don't like the way that his family treats you and explain why. explain everything that is bothering you and make him listen to you. like i tell some of my friends, and don't take this the wrong way, grow some balls and just do it, you'll feel better later about it.
i hope that helps.
2006-11-27 15:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by PixiFairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him and tell him how you feel, " I always do something for you but you have never done anything special for me ".
2006-11-27 15:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by delta_922002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better watch out this type of person will dump you for a 20 year old if given the chance
2006-11-27 19:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you told us, Tell him that you are not happy and tell him why you are not happy. If he does nothing about it you know he lied and you should think about getting divorced so that you can go on with your life.
2006-11-27 15:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋