I heard my daughter swear a few times already. She says the B****and Damit. Its problably my fault and please dont judge I really want to help her stop saying it. I feel so bad because I know its my fault. What should I do?
2006-11-27 15:15:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He He!!! My daughter caught me too. Clean up your language, make a conscious effort to use anything else but curses and make sure she knows those words are bad words and nice little girls don't use those. Everytime she says it, stop whatever is going on and correct her... I use, "VirGINIA! What did Mama tell you about those words! We say fooey or pickles." Hang in there mom.
2006-11-27 15:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, stop swearing yourself. It is possible - I had a real potty mouth before I had a baby, but completely stopped.
Second, don't overreact, and don't smile or laugh when she swears - she will see your reaction and swear again to produce the same reaction. Just tell her that word is boring and silly (don't glamourise it with the word "bad"), and you don't want to hear it again. If she persists, tell her calmly and quietly she loses a treat every time she says it.
FOLLOW THROUGH AND BE CONSISTENT on this! Kids can sniff out a parent who doesn't mean her threats! And please don't make it a drama or a big deal, or she will again learn that swearing produces a nice satisfyingly big reaction.
Good luck.
2006-11-27 15:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by gellhorn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not judging...but you are going to have to change your vocabulary. Don't worry...most everyone has the same problem.
Upon using a "bad word", I apologize and tell my child that what I said is not acceptable and that I am going to have a time out because what I did was wrong.
(I usually go where I can still see my child...but where I can have a moment to calm down.) I do this because I want my children to realize that it is wrong no matter who says it...and that there will be consequences if it happens.
2006-11-27 15:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Susanne W. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that has worked for all my three children is explaining to them that bad words are grown up words. They are not allowed to say these words. I say that when they grow up they have the choice to say these words, but it is not very intelligent sounding, and it offends a lot of people to hear it. I have been fortunate enough to make this work. Since the beginning I've been teaching them to put themselves in anothers' shoes. I'd ask them what it would be like to be called these names. The outcome has been very good. We have no problems here at home. See what works for you.
2006-11-27 15:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by sweeta : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's proably learning from you or someone else. I suggest you tell her to stop and if she does it again...tell her its a very bad and naughty word to use because it's disrespectful around grown ups and everyone and mommy wouldn't like ti if you did it again ^_^. I one time heard myyoungest niece curse in her room while talkign on the phone and she's only 8!
2006-11-27 15:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Just a mom :D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat, my son will be 3 Dec.3 and he says it all. Make it clear that theyare big people words and thats why you and only big people can use them. Try using hot sauce, soap, time out, and taking her favorite things away. If she decides not to use the words rewrd her with stickers, candy, a toy, etc. Good luck if you find the answer PLEASE let me know!
2006-11-27 19:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by lilmomma91206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, stop using that type of language. Not only in front of her, but in general. As far as she knows, it's okay to swear. Next time she does it, tell her that it's bad and to stop. If she continues, tap her slightly on the mouth. You'll hurt her feelings by doing this and she won't want to disappoint you anymore.
2006-11-27 15:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Jay 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter did the same thing at that age and it was the f....... word. You are right; it is our fault. I did not talk to her about it; I just stopped saying them and it rubbed off. Shoot instead of sh--, darn instead of da--, oh man instead of f---, etc. I'm sure if you change your vocabulary, so will she. Good luck.
2006-11-27 15:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by wishful thinker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your parents did or what most parents did in the past. Put some soap in her mouth everytime she curses.
2006-11-27 15:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her it's bad......dont laugh about it. she's doing it for attention. when she does it tell her its bad and then dont say anything else. my daughter went thru the same thing. it only last like a mnth.
2006-11-27 18:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋