should i tell him hw i feel?

Question

I'm in love. I've loved him for 2 years. He was the best thing to ever happen to me. He's the only one, the one. He broke my heart,he tortures me by paying attention to me, and for the last few months i've been creeping into depression, and maybe even suicidal thoughts ( thoughts that the only way to forget is to die).
I want to forget or be with him. Should i tell him how i feel?

were both only 13, so ppl dont take me seriously when i say i love him, but i do, i really do.

he calls me names, hits me sometimes, but its all playful (i'm not in denial, it really is playful) and he always gives me looks like he cares, but cant tell me. maybe i am in denial and just havent accepted it. idk.

Answer 1

He broke your heart, he tortures you by paying attention to you? I dont understand. Do you think hes playing games with you? If he is paying you the attention and you are responding, and he knows he broke your heart, then it is a game to him, and he should be ashamed of himself. No, you dont have to tell him how you feel, he obviously knows because he is playing games with your emotions. I wouldnt be feeling depressed...I would be feeling angry......how dare he play with your emotions like that. I would talk to him sure, but I would tell him straight to stop playing with your emotions and leave you alone. While ever you are seeing him on a regular basis you are not giving yourself time to get over him. I wish you gave more information because based on what you have said, the above is the only conclusion I can come to.

I know its hard to try to get over someone you love, but it can be done. Your situation is a little bit different because you are still seeing him, therefore you are not allowing yourself the time needed to move on. You have to gain every bit of strength you can muster and even if you dont feel like it, you have to tell him to leave you alone. Who knows, it may have the opposite effect. Lots of guys want girls they cant have....lots of men love to see confidence in a woman and you are mooning around responding to his advances then he has total control over you. No man really likes a woman who is so compliant. Give the impression you dont care about him.....be strong.....show him you dont want to play these games any more. Show him you are better than that. Tell yourself you deserve much more than what he is giving you and if you tell yourself that often enough you will start to feel strong. You need to start hanging around in different circles. You need to have friends who are positive and happy around you. You have to let him go....he is destroying you. Life can you as good or as bad as you want to make it. You are the Master of Your Own Destiny. You have the power to change this all around....and the first step is to take a big deep breath, ring him up and tell him you are no longer interested in seeing or hearing from him ever again. You need to tell him that this is the first day of the new you. You need to tell him that you are going to look in greener pastures for someone who is going to treat you well. Tell him you are over him. It doesnt matter whether you feel that way or not....you just have to tell him. Then the next step is to stay away from him as much as you possibly can. Use your self control, and you will need it. You are better than this. Fancy thinking of killing yourself because of this man. He is a disgrace to all men who tread on peoples feelings so easily. Why would you want a guy like that in your life? Stop thinking about him all the time....think about yourself...go out and buy some make up...pamper yourself, join a gym....just get out there and join life. It will be hard at first, but the more you do it the more you are going to believe in yourself, and the more you believe in yourself, the more you will know that you deserve better.

Answer 2

I loved someone once like that, still do. We were married for 8 years, then it ended. I knew I wanted nothing to do with him, but after a while, I cannot live without him. I still talk to him everyday, see him almost every day (kids involved in it). I have learned that I will only drive myself crazy pondering over it. I take what I can get from him, and try not to read into anything else. There will be a time and a place to tell him how much I love him, always have, always will. Until that time for you, don't beat yourself up! If you don't have to see him, I recommend not! I gave myself panic attacks and almost ulcers going through it every time I knew that I had to see him. Does he know how you feel? Has he ever known how you have felt? There is alot to take into consideration. But, when all is said and done, only you can do the right thing. And I highly don't recommend the suicide!!!! Your life is worth so much more than that!

Answer 3

Well how do you feel when you are with him are you happy just because you love someone does not make them good for you. You need to go wtih how you feel around him, and depression will not be solved by telling him there seems to be other issuses going on and you might want to look into that how can someone love you if you are not feeling so great about life.

Answer 4

If you dont tell him, then how is he going to know? And as far as suicidal talk! U need to chill! There r more guyz out there! Your suppose to live life to the fullest. Rebuke your negative thoughts! Negative is bad! I've felt this way before, but taking your life isnt worth it.

Answer 5

I am going to jump to the conclusion that you are pretty young.

If you're talking about depression and suicidal thoughts you really need to talk to some good, solid, counselor; who may be able to help you get on better footing emotionally. What you've described isn't anything to fool around with.

With regarding to this person you're asking about it - It is kind of dangerous for you to believe that he is the one and only one; because - I hate to say this - if he hasn't made the attempt to do more than pay attention to you there's a good chance he doesn't feel the same way about you. Your description of how you feel leads us, readers, to kind of think you have "emotional issues" and may be needy (and being needy doesn't usually win anyone over as a potential boyfriend/girlfriend). I don't mean to come across as cold, but someone needs to put some perspective on your situation.

Really being in love (and it has to be mutual) isn't about being "tortured" and depressed and having suicidal thoughts. It is supposed to be about two people who both make the other feel happy most of the time. I can't help but suspect you're either young (chonologically) or else not quite mature even if you have the years under your belt, and you have turned your view of being "in love" into something that is dramatic and tortured because. Maybe you wish you could go out with this person, and because you can't you're just miserable? I don't mean to underestimate or make light of what you have said, but I thought I'd try to offer a mature point of view.

The reason I think you need someone to at least say some version of what could be the truth is this: There's the chance this person likes you enough but not in the right way. If you come on as strong around him as you have in your question it may be more than he can deal with. That would mean that you end up never being able to be with this particular person. There will be others. In the meantime, since there's the chance you may be too much of a "basket-case" (sorry) for him to be really interested in you you need to consider that unpleasant reality and figure out how to deal with.

If you unload all of what you've said above on this person there will be no turning back, and if he doesn't like you in the same way you'll have yet more bad feelings (embarrassment) to be dealing with on top of the stuff you already have. I tend to think if he likes you the way you like him he'll make the move. If he doesn't make any move it could be because he likes you but not in the same way.

I think you need to talk with a really sensible, mature, person who can discuss what real love is supposed to be and how you have to be a happy, solid, non-tortured/needy, person in order to be able to contribute something to a relationship. If you don't know someone in your personal life then talk to a counselor.

What you have described is not healthy for you. You need some guidance. I think you shouldn't tell this person how you feel at least until you sort it out with a sensible, mature, wise, counselor or other solid person.

In two years if he hasn't made any move to go out with you there may be a reason for it. If you're young and even if you did go out there's the chance it wouldn't last - which means you'll be back where you are now.

There may be a part of you (particularly if you're young) who thinks it romantic to be tortured and suicidal over someone, but the reality is it shows a lack of self-respect that you are willing to long for someone for ttwo years and that you believe this person you aren't going out with is "the best thing.....". I don't mean to be cruel - just honest.

The only way a relationship can be what it should be is for both people to be well adjusted and solid. Again, talk to someone like a counselor. You're going to pining away forever if you don't get some help in seeing what is well adjusted and solid and what is (forgive me) just a little too nutty to be romantic or appealing.

Being "in love" can make people a little nutty - but what you've described is more than the normal "nutty". If you've been pining away for this person for two years it may be time to stop wasting your life and start building yourself into a strong, solid, person.

I don't doubt that what you feel is very real for you, but it isn't - as you must know - a healthy thing for you. If you were my daughter and said what you have said I would hope someone would say what I have said in reply. I'm sorry if I've seemed a little on the cold, black-and-white-thinking, side.

Best wishes.

Answer 6

similar project i change into in a 12 months in the past. next time he says something about how he doesnt recognize if his lady is the only say something. Youll regret it in case you dont. If he doesnt like you decrease back then purely act completely primary about it round him and issues will bypass decrease back to primary

Answer 7

Tell him girl.. and get some help. You shouldn't go through depression alone. There are people who care about you and who can help you.

Answer 8

Maybe you feel you're being forced to love.If so, then take a break from each other. Maybe you'll find that helps.

Answer 9

Sounds like you need him! Yes you two should be together! Give him a chance. Good luck with everything! :)

Answer 10

well if you love him and feel its time to tell him then tell him.... because wouldnt that be fair instead of killing yourself and hurting him. so think about it seriously and talk to him about it.