my grandpas house burnt down and then like 5 day later he went in the hospital with phmonia( dont know if i spelt that right) and while in the hospital they found a lump on his lung they did the test and everything but they said it was to small to tell if it was cancerious Im Scared because my Grandma only 5years died of lung Cancer i dont know what to do if he does have cancer.and my other grandma just died a year ago i cant take no more deaths or anythign else. My question is how can i like not think about it all the time i dont know what to do its all i tgink about someone please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 14:48:00 · 6 answers · asked by rockerchick 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
Its hard to talk to my parents i tried talking to my mom but she worse off then i am so it dont really help and my dad well its hard to talk to hi. I knwo death it part of life but why does it seem to be all happening at once or it seems like it is anyway. My grandma and I the one who passe daway 5years were really really close and 5 yrs later im still not over it then another one comes and know if my grandpa haas cancer he said he wont do cemo so i know he will died which i rathen have it that way then go though kemo i seen what my grandma went though and seen the pain she was in i dont want him to go tough that too
2006-11-27 15:03:46 · update #1
Sounds like you are having a tough time dealing with stuff.Try to keep busy. Enjoy life with your family.My mum died a year agoand I still feel very sad but you just have to get on with life.I am undergoing grief counselling so maybe you could dothe same. Your doctor might be able to put you in touch with someone that can help you resolve issues dealing with death and also learning to overcome your fears about death. Take care.
2006-11-27 16:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life's lessons sometimes seem very difficult to bear. Somehow you will learn to accept those lessons and triumph over them.. Until then, as you stated, your gram ma's pain was not a very nice experience for you. But you did accept her death, to be rid of the pain.. There is a softer side to life and you will find it in your later years when you recall all the good times you had with your gram ma...The bad memories seem to fade away with time and you will again enjoy the good memories.. the same will be true of your gramps.
Try to concentrate on the good times you had together.. There must be many thoughts you can recall.. enjoy them as much as you can. May even share them with your mom, as you mentioned she needs some help too. Perhaps by helping her, you will be helping yourself.
2006-11-28 04:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorrry to hear about all the losses in your family. The key is to try not to think about it so much. Try to keep busy take up cooking sewing or something you can use your hands with. Hang out with your friends more. Try to save the time you have with your grandfather now. Because no one lives thier first life forever. Try to find the stregnth within you to keeep your head up.Pray that God blesses your family with healthy and prosperous lives if you put your trust in him he can do all things. just try a little bit harder to hold on. If you want to talk try a friend you know you can condfide in. One you know you can trust and all should be well.
Blessed Be
2006-11-27 23:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by Via 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone to help you overcome your fears and your grief. Grandparents die, its a normal thing and it is hard to lose someone but it is inevitable. What about your parents, can you talk to them about your feelings. Do you have a close friend. Talking will not change things but it will take a load of your soul. Focus on the good memories you have, look at pictures and pray.
2006-11-27 22:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for all your troubles and sadness..........even though sometimes it doesn't seem like it, EVERYONE has sadness and troubles and problems they have to deal with. What you have to do is calm down and take a deep breath and tell yourself you can handle it. I have been faced with terrible problems and when it happens I think that I have to be strong to help out the people it is also happening to...like your granpa.....try to be strong for him. If you fall apart it will just make his sorrow worse....tell yourself to just face your troubles head on. It is very difficult .......you have to do what you have to do. I hope that makes sense.
2006-11-27 23:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by keig 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am so sorry to hear about all of this. You need positive energy in your life, find a great christian church. They are alive with energy, lots of them with bands and singing. .. the energy is amazing. Don't let the enemy bring you down. It's in the wilderness that we grow, it's in the trials that we mature. I'm praying for you and your grandpa. xoxoxoxo
2006-11-27 22:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋