should i ask her out - or is she not interested?

Question

Hello all. There is this woman i really really like. She has gotten under my skin like no one before. We dont meet together but i meet her regularly through work. I asked her out for a drink last week. She said she would like to go but that she was really busy with thanksgiving etc and to call her in a few weeks. She passed me her business card with cell phone written on the back. I am thinking of asking her out tomorrow. This is one week after i asked her out - hopefull she doesnt think im pestering her. Im woried that im wasting my time anyway - if she was really interested she would have accepted my invitation last week. Like i said im really into her - it will hurt if she turns me down. Any thoughts/advice would be welcome.

Hello all again. Just to clarify - we dont work at the same place but we meet regularly through work. Ill call her tomorrw and ask her out. I thoulght about emailing her last week but im glad that i didnt. Thanks for advice

Hello all. Called her cellphone. Was put through to her voicemail. She doesnt know my number so it wasnt a deliberate ignore. I left a voicemail saying that it would be great if we could meet and asking her to get back to me. I dont know if this has made things worse but i have it done now. Ill update with response - none, negative or positive.

Answer 1

dude i would hold off a little longer. there is some truth to what she is saying. the festive season can be pretty full on. with family stuff and buying presents. if you come on to striong and like you said pester her, she will not go out with you. she is definitely keen to go out with you though, otherwise she woulnt have given you her number. keep talking to her at work, say hello etc. but wait a little longer before you ask her out.

Answer 2

WOW. Its nice that you care so much to question your next move. Maybe she really was busy last week??? But still she went to the trouble of actually writing her personal number out for you on a very not-so-personal business card. Try to bump into her a bit more a work, see how her thanksgiving was, have a conversation and make sure she notices you. See if she is really seeing you and talking to you, or if she is just giving you the bump. Give her a ring in a day or two and see how you go. You'll never know unless you ask. I hope it all works out

Answer 3

she gave i her number, she could have been busy, what is the worst that can happen if she would turn u down, nothing. u just have no confidence in yourself, u don't think u are worthy, but why not. u are just as much entitled to be with someone as the next guy. we have to watch out for the negative things we say to ourselves than aren't true. she will not think u are pestering her she is expecting your call. have more self confidence in yourself, whatever happened in your past to make u second guess yourself, get rid of that negativity. she has no reason not to accept your invitation. and u have every thing to gain by asking her out. when u ask her out show confidence in yourself, if u get turned down, it has nothing to do with u, just means she may have another date,and u should try several times before giving up and throwing in the towel.

Answer 4

So you don't think that her time is important - family commitment is not as important to you as it is to her? You sound selfish but I could be wrong. So I'll go on.
She sounds nice and more importantly, she sounds like what you like. Some people take time and unless you want to take the time to get to know this person before moving forward, then you shouldn't even start. She sounds like she will be a challenge for you and certainly a time commitment.
If you feel more comfortable, wait another week but call her. You will never know unless you do.

Answer 5

When did she pass you her card? If it was today, then definitely ask her out again. Maybe start with lunch so there is less pressure and less risk on your part. She wont just say, "no" if she is not interested, she will give an excuse. If that happens, then just move on. The Thanksgiving reason seems valid to me.

Will you answer my last question about a shy man? I could use your imput. Thanks!

Answer 6

If she gave you her card with her personal cell number on the back, then she was probably being honest, and just taking a rain check. Call her! If you don't, you'll always wonder "what if", and that is a miserable feeling. If she doesn't accept, your feelings will be hurt, but trust me, you'll get over it eventually. It's always better to know one way or the other.

Answer 7

aaww thats sooo cute!! sori but it is! maybe she honestly couldnt come out with you the other time because she was really busy. i think if u really like her, go for it! its better to know how she feels so that if she does like u, u can start having a relationship, and if she doesnt.. as much as it is going to hurt it would hurt more to wait and get in even deeper later down the track. do what your heart tells u and if its meant to be, it will.
Good Luck!! :) and i hope this helps

Answer 8

Okay, I don't know about other women, but I love it when a man chases after what he wants.
You only asked her out once so ask her again. She may have really truly been busy.

But you never know what could have been unless you try and don't not ask her because then you risk regretting your choices and you'll constantly be thinking 'what ifs'.

Ask her. Good luck.

Answer 9

Maybe she really was busy. It was Thanksgiving...

I'd ask her out again and if she gives you another excuse, then you give her your number and say something like, "well, when you do have time, give me a call if you'd like to have a drink..." Then you just forget about it. The ball is in her court.

Answer 10

Make it a very undate like event, such as coffee, walk her to her car, lunch, go shopping together for something silly.
This way you become friends first. It certainly would not hurt at all if you ended up finding out you are really not each otehrs type.