her doctor says that only 1 in 100 die these days with all this new technology but yet i am so scared.i know its normal to be scaeed but i need to know what to do to make my mom,my dad and myslef deal with this.
2006-11-27 13:54:34 · 12 answers · asked by heart b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi. I am an oncology nurse experienced with breast cancer. Congratulate your mother on catching her breast cancer. It sounds like she caught it early. It is ok to be scared. The best way to deal with this is to find out all you can about your mom's diagnosis and what her plan of care is. Many of the treatments can have some side effects, which are normal. Your mom should find out about them and be prepared for what to expect. Half the battle of cancer is in the mind. She needs you and your dad to be concerned but also keep a positive attitude. Your mom will be tired during her treatment. You and your dad can help by doing little things like the laundry, cooking and helping around the house so she won't be stressed about that. Also many patients who get chemo like to have a friend or family member there during their transfusion. Offer to be there. Cancer is not easy but what it can do is really remind you how much you love each other. Just be there, tell your mom you love her and ask her what she needs. Also be nice to your dad. This is sometimes harder for the guys even if they don't show it. Good luck and God bless <><
2006-11-27 14:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by kcrn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom had breast cancer when I was in high school. The best thing you can do is to support her and treat her the same way you always did. If you treat her differently it will remind her that she has cancer and make her feel different. When she undergoes chemo or radiation you and your dad can take care of her and be there for her. Be sure to have stories to tell her or something to say or do to make her feel better. Let me know if you have any other questions or anything. I hope your mom feels well and that the cancer is removed.
2006-11-27 21:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, Its not that bad as you think. I a survivor. My Mom pass away from three years ago. Don't worry about it. The Key to breast cancer is PRAYER. Yes, that right PRAYER. It changes every thing. The Doctor don't have the last say. She's not going til her time honey. Love her today like its her last. So you want have to have all those If I Could/Would. Stop feeling sorry for her. Be there for Her. My Mom use to tell us "If God Brought You To It"
"He will bring you Thru It"
2006-11-27 22:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a reassuring statistic, but being scared is totally normal. I think the best thing for you to do is stay close, and do the research so you understand whats happening. so you feel more in control. Don't treat your mother "normal," though. She deserves a little extra ranting time, a little more nagging time, becuase sometimes stress shows itself in strange places, and the two issues -cancer adn if you have cleaned your room- don't seem to be connected. Remember to tell her you love her!
You sound strong... good luck!
2006-11-27 22:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by ChaChaChingThing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was diagnosed with breast cancer in April so I know exactly how you feel. I did not worry about myself I was more concerned with my family and the friends who love me. I believe in GOD and all of his promises in the Bible so I depend on him to help us all through this ordeal, this test of life, this trial and tribulation. I have one more Chemo left and I am blessed because all of what I have gone through could have been worst. Be strong and believe your Mom will be okay.
2006-11-27 22:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by Neetaa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry 2 hear that. i knw exactly how u feel: my great grandfather died of cancer and during the time when he was still alive, i tried 2 make his last moments great. but it turned out his last xmas was a disaster. so...try spending time with her and making her last memories with u special that she will alwayz carry with her where ever she goez. :)
the best of luck! take good care.
2006-11-27 22:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Bleed!ng Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its scary, but you will get through it. just be glad its not something more serious like brain cancer or heart cancer. My 15-year old friend was just diagnosed with brain cancer and i was really upset, but he had surgeries and he is doing fine. Im sure your mom, will be fine. just have faith.
2006-11-27 22:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by kristen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My dad had bowel cancer...the best thing to do is just be there for each other...and stay positive...they do have many treatments these days so just stay positive...good luck :)
2006-11-27 21:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by hello hello! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lend your ear to her. Be a good listener. Assure her that you are there for her for whatever she may need. And most of all stay in prayer. God bless.
2006-11-27 22:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by egg_sammash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should pray 2 God and beg him to help u, ur dad n ur mom.
2006-11-27 21:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by wanna b me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋