My BF is diagnosed with depression,he said he is not worthy of me .And ask me to find other man ..?

Question

I have met this wonderful guy about 4 month ago. We have built such a wonderful time with and both know, we will be together forever at the beginning of relationship. He is very responsible, hard-worker. His profession constantly put him into very stressful condition always and I have promised myself to be supportive always and it has been my pressure for him. We had wonderful trip to San Diego 2 month ago. He told me that he has never had a great time with anyone….. but every since that trip (as he said), he feels he is not worthy of me and now, we are both thinking that he might be diagnosed with depression and I am more than likely believed so. I just have got phone call that he would like me to find someone else who can make me happier………… I never wish so. He is the one for me, I swear to God and I am wishing he is telling me this because of depression. Is there any professional advice or someone who can tell me that he is really wanting me to break up with him… or not….. I

He also told me that he need more time.... dose it mean I should not call or email him? what can I do????

Thank you for answering my question. this is my frist time and you guys are so helpful. thank you.

Answer 1

support and him and tell him taht you want to be with him and don't want to give up...tell him you'll be here every step of the way..encourage him to seek a therapist who can help him...maybe give him a few days but tell him you're not going to leave for good...

Answer 2

I used to be in the same situation your boyfriend is in. Just know that he's pushing you away is nothing personal towards you (if he's really depressed that is, and not using this as a breakup method), he is just feeling too detached to be the type of guy he knows you deserve and he doesn't want to hurt you. Give him the space he needs, but if you really love him, don't just leave him - when he will get better all the feelings he had towards you will still be there, along with a new found clarity to realize he doesn't want to let you go.

Answer 3

A person with depression feels useless and thinks that people that really care about them do not deserve them. A person with depression wants the other to be happy, not depressed. That is the reason why your friend is wanting you to find somebody else because he does not want to make you sad. He needs to see a doctor and get some treatment.

Answer 4

he feels like s--t. so he is saying this. give him space. maybe he will come around. i'm depressed. u want help. i'll help. i'm geeting better. i'm attending college full time. [e-mail]. join my group if you have any issues [e-mail]. be patient.