so i have liked this guy for like a year and a half and then we finally got together i split up witha guy and lost most my close mates so i could be with him we was only with eachother for a short while but it all seemed perfect then he split up wth me he said it was cause of people starting rumours about him cheating and saying things bout me i really care bout him and cant stop crying he is constantely on my mind since we broke up my eating disorder has become worse and my self confidence has gone all together i see him alot around and it hurts so bad that im not with him id do absoloutely awt to get him bak can anybody help me please i just dont know what to do with out him
2006-11-27 13:44:03 · 3 answers · asked by gema c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Eeew, I have totally been there and it sucks. I was 21, and totally in LOVE with this guy who was like 10 years older. I was in love with him for a couple of years before anything happened. Then, as soon as it did, it drove us apart. He couldn't handle it either...When I look back at those 5 years that I wasted, with my life being all about him, I am disgusted with myself. All of my friends hated him too. I was always choosing him over my friends. (Luckily I have understanding friends, who still love me :) ) At that time, NO ONE could convince me that he was anything but my soul mate, and that we were absolutely meant for each other. Looking back, I probably cried over that guy every day for a very long time. Obviously someone who brings you so much pain, but not a whole lot of true happiness is not good for you. Its hard to see that. I never could. He eventually stopped talking to me...for 3 years. When we started talking again, I realized that he was just as self absorbed as ever. The thing was, I had been forced to go on with my life when he cut me off. My life was no longer all about him, and I didn't want to give up anything that I had worked so hard for, for such a selfish person who wouldn't appreciate it. At that point I thanked God for NOT letting us end up together. ( I prayed every day for a long time that we would!) Now, I am 28, and let me just tell you that the kind of man a woman wants at 20 and then at 30 are like night and day. If I had gotten my wish back then, I would be stuck in a life sentence right now....
Hang in there. Let that guy go. If its meant to be, it will happen. If its not, someday you will find a man who treats you like a princess, and loves you as much as you love him. Then, you will cringe at the thought of this Mr X. I PROMISE.
2006-11-27 14:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by JGiddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 15:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You blew it! You deserve the rumors because you ignored your friends and you had a bf when you went after this guy. He figured out your an unfaithful person and wants nothing more to do with you. How do you think that guy felt when you dumped him to be with this new guy? You are just getting what you deserve. Not many people will feel sorry for you and you did all this to yourself.
Now that said, if you want to recover from this just stay away from guys for a while, try to make up with your friends and then when you do get a bf don't be shopping around for a new one until your through with the first. It's called loyalty.
2006-11-27 13:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋