I need spiritual help please?

Question

Today was the worst day of my life, I told someone I really cared about a very big lie with the intentions he would find out the truth just to push him away. I told him the someone in my family had died! I know it was stupid! But this relationship had needed to be over, it was to many things going on that wasn't right. We were lying to each other to much, and I just couldn't take it anymore! I am capable of telling the truth. But everytime this man and I would "breakup" we always came back to each other and it just wasn't healthy. So I told this ultimate lie, now he does hate me and he told me that he hoped I died soon, and when I did he hoped I went to hell. Please help me, only God can fix this

Answer 1

If it was a bad relationship that you wanted over, be glad that it is over and move on. At some point down the line he will see that it was the best thing for you both. He likely doesn't hate you - he was likely just speaking out of anger. Don't waste the pain this has caused - the relationship is over and that is what needed to happen. Don't beat yourself up about it - it sounds like you tried several times to end it nicely. Sometimes it just has to be this way.

Peace!

PS - remember too, when what goes around comes around and you are on the other side of this equation, how you are feeling now and treat them compassionately.

Answer 2

You say that you need help but you also say you have the answer! Your right, turn to God. He knows all of our weaknesses and strengths and do you know what is the VERY BEST THING ABOUT GOD?? Once you ask forgiveness....he FORGETS your sin. Can you grasp that???? WOW. I mean He really forgets it...your slate is wiped clean and you start new. Only in the Christian faith is this possible, only with a Father like Jesus can we be forgiven over and over. Remember when asked how many times one should forgive another ...seven times? And Jesus said 7 x 70!!!! Turn to God, ask forgiveness and it is done. The only time it is brought up again is when WE bring it up and God is going "What are you talking about" because he forgives and he FORGETS. You are truly clean. That doesn't mean we should just go out and sin knowing that our Father will forgive us, but He knows our burdens and He will carry them for us. Just give Him a chance!

Answer 3

The only thing you need to fix is your relationship with God. Ask Him to forgive the lie and HE WILL.
Then get on with your life. The man you couldn't stand to be around has moved out of your life. Celebrate....

Answer 4

If truth cannot emerge, that is will it or can it?

Do enough soul searching to make sure all your truth ducks are in a row so they can be presented in a non-manipulating way and leaving the choice in the lap of the other person to determine. After that pray for God's peace.

Do you both have a common faith together?

http://www.carm.org/doctrine/trinity.htm

Answer 5

Man that is very upsetting. I would hate for something like this to happen to anyone. But i know that u are right. God is the only one that can fix this, but u can keep and keep on asking that guy to forgive u. That is not something that anyone should say to anyone even if they really felt that way. To me, in my protestant/baptist belief, saying that u haet somone really means, like it says in the Bible that u want to murder them, kill them or something that will cause them to not be breathing again. But please tell ur friend or that guy to forgive u. And if he doens't just ask God to help u out with this problem that u are in. And pray for that person cuz they seem to be lost alot. So please pray for them even if u are very angry at them. I am hoping that u are not fellign this hate towards that guy liek he is to u. But please just talk to God with all ur heart and soul and ask Him for him tos how u what his will is for u and his plan for u and what u are leading him into in life. God wants us all in a relationship with him

I am so glad that u are tryingt o seek this help But God is Almighty adn King and Lord and everything that represents good. I love Him sooo much 4 wahat he's done for me, but He is the only that can help u with this kind of problem. Even thoug i don't know u, i am prayingt hat u get out of this.

Answer 6

1) You need to ask his forgiveness. Even if he wants you still need to ask.
2) You need to forgive him for his lies as well.

When these are done then ask our Heavenly Father for forgiveness and he will.

Lies are of satan who is the father of lies, so tread carefully in this area.

If the relationship was not and is not based upon the Word of God then it is weak.
Breaking up always hurt someone and most of the time it is not easy. However if you know it is a bad relationship do not go back to it, ever!

Now, you need to lay this sin at the feet of Jesus and ask forgiveness and leave it there. Christ can cover it and His Father / our Father will forgive you. You will find peace there.
Pick your Bible up and spend time there.

We will pray for you.

Answer 7

No only you can fix this! God is always willing to show how to negotiate new territory, but cleaning up your own messes is your responsibility. It's not so bad, just apologize and be truthful and do
a better job next time and live with honesty in your heart./

Answer 8

Few simple steps
1. Come clean and tell the truth.
2. Tell real reason if you really want to breakup
3. You can fix this problem yourself - don't need God as yet.

Answer 9

You said : Please help me, only God can fix this

Exactly, don't be on hre expecting someone t be able to fix this. You need to pray, repent, and move on. Maybe this guiy isn't a good person to have in your life. Don't put your faith in man, or your life and heart, becuase you will ALWAYS be let down, even by your family. Put your faith and love in the Lord, he will always be there.

Answer 10

Ask God for forgiveness for lying and don't do it again.

A letter of apology to this man is probably in order, as well as an admission that you do not want the relationship to continue and that is why you lied.