My parents are forcing me to get confirmed into a church that I don't want to be part of. I calmy explained why I thought that. I told my parents that this is a big decision in my faith and I want to do what is right, and I know that being part of their church isn't right. They know that I am level headed smart and mature, but then they said that I am too young to make this decision and I will be part of their church no matter what. I don't think that I am to young, and I believe very strongly that what I think is the right thing to do, but the won't listen. What should I do? Can I do anything about this?
2006-11-27 13:29:17 · 18 answers · asked by i♥TheDoors! 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i am 14, want to belong to the religous society of friends, and my parents want me to be roman catholic.
2006-11-27 13:39:13 · update #1
Can you put it off for a while? Perhaps tell them you'd like another year to think about it?
2006-11-27 13:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Witchy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see many (any) of the answerers thus far even suggesting you talk with the Minister (Priest) about the concerns you have.
Anyone not know your age, nor the church or denomination or cult ... anyone without such information can not advise you except in the most general fashion as to a parent/daughter obedience.
And if you are 13 (or 18, or 21) and are considered mature enough to make the promises in Confirmation then it would seem you also are old enough to not make promises which you can not or will not keep.
You really should talk with the Minister/Priest!!!
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Now, knowing you are 14, and knowing there is a great difference between RC & Society of Friends ... some might wonder whether your interest in the Society is because of their theological beliefs, or because some friend of yours (maybe a boy friend) goes there?
Do you dis-believe what the RC believes concerning God, the Trinity, and about Jesus Christ?
Would your parents let you talk with the Priest?
What promises would you be making in Confirmation? Perhaps to be Christ's person and to follow Him all the days of your life? I mean, it isn't like "getting married"; and when you get older you could still worship with the Society of Friends.
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In suggestiong you talk with yoru Priest, I am, of course, recommending that ONLY if he is moral, celibate, and chaste.
2006-11-27 21:43:44 · answer #2 · answered by kent chatham 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try just once more to tell them that you do not want to get confirmed in that church. If they do not listen then inform a pastor or priest that you really would like to re-think your religion, and get your parents to get involved in the discussion. Have someone there IN THE ROOM while you have the discussions. The pastor can act as a meduim between you and your parents. If that does not work ask a family member or close friend to be a medium, and if your parents still force you to get confirmed, tell them you will call the police. The police is last ditch attempt though, I think your parents will listen to reason before that. And good luck I know how you feel sweety.
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shadowgirl
2006-11-27 21:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. T, formerly known as Shadow. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a choice you are going to have to make on your own. I know from experience. You can honor your parents by following their rules. Then when the time comes they will not have a say so at all, or they may just give in to this brutal and passive resolve. You might want to clue them in on the fact that you don't believe or with some family's it is just for show, I recommend you study the origins of religion,( not the bible but the ice age.)
Or fight tooth and nail. Refuse to go, resistance seems futile in such a situation but it may pay off ( for your younger siblings.)
And I am sure there are many other creative resolves.
Either way it is your choice and since you are old enough now to make them.
2006-11-27 21:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are over the age of 13, Bible teaching church saids you can make up your own mind but why would you want to change from your parents church and make waves in the family? If you are younger then 13, do what is best for now and change latter
2006-11-27 21:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by larlonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted to chuck religion altogether, I could help you, but as long as you want to jump into some other manure pile of a church, you show that you are not old enough to make a rational decision. Even though they don't deserve it (no child should be forced into any religion), they win.
2006-11-27 21:34:53 · answer #6 · answered by iknowtruthismine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the nature of your question says you are mature. Even as a Christian, I wouldn't want you to profess a faith you didn't have. Stand up to your parents with as much respect for them as you can muster. Don't let the subject lie, be persistent and wear them down. Good luck!
2006-11-28 00:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by Scott B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confirmation is what it is to a true believer....Your parents think they are doing the right thing by you.....I believe in your right to exercise choice.....It may sound like a cop out but maybe you should talk to them again....
Confirmation is an outward sign of belief...tell them that even if you do it your mind will remain the same.......
Don't sell the belief in God short.....There is a God
jim Morrison
2006-11-27 21:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by cesare214 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you are old enough to choose your religion, you should obey your parents.
However, if you find that Islam makes sense to you, you are encouraged to convert. Abraham was a child when he opposed the idolatric beliefs of his father and tribe.
Islam re-aligns your faith towards the straight path of the one and only true God.
2006-11-27 21:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are doing what they believe is right. It is all any parent can do. You must abide by their decision until you are of legal age, then you can choose whatever you want.
2006-11-27 21:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋