And you knew that the spouce had a history of it, and that the child was telling the truth
2006-11-27 13:25:01 · 25 answers · asked by JASNJ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You have a moral and legal obligation to remove the child from the house particularly since you say the child is telling the truth. Now, I don't know if this is a hypothetical situation or not or if we are talking about physical or sexual abuse. I am going to take the tact that this is a case of sexual abuse.
You should either call the police or child protective services. Send the child to a family member on your side, but you will have to make formal custody arrangements. You can go to your church or your child's school for assistance since they have resources available to them for this type of situation. Hospitals also have access to social services. If you keep the child in this situation you will be held responsible by the authorities just as if you were the offending spouse.
2006-11-27 13:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you will kick the spouse out. Take the child to counselling, and maybe on the way get some counselling yourself. Allowing someone into your home with a history of abuse, giving access to your child. Of course giving the benefit of the doubt is a good thing, but how safe in the long run.
2006-11-28 00:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by B.Cakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st I would make sure that the accusation is true, that's first and foremost, only because children today have a habit of seeking revenge on parents who won't do what the child wants, after making sure the truth or falseness then I would take action,because once the ball has started rolling then it is very hard to stop if found un true, and can't be retracted, it will be in the hands of the Law, and the alleged party would be placed on a list which will follow them and brand them for life
2006-11-28 01:19:48 · answer #3 · answered by MinO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you need to go to the police. I dont believe you should have to be without a place to live as comments such as"GET OUT OF THERE" imply That is punishing your child further, Get the miserable bastard out of the house and in jail. A restraining order would be good if he is not in jail while being tried..By God make him Pay, Make sure you get help for your son, on the outside it may appear he doent need it but he does and will!!! Just curious..Why would you let your child be alone with a known preditor? Does this make you in anyway responsible? just wondered
2006-11-27 13:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sherry D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if I knew my spouse abused children in the past he wouldn't be my spouse let alone would i have him around children. Second I would call the police and have him charged. Kids do not normally accuse people of abusing them unless it is true. I would get myself and the children as far away from him as possible and have him put behind bars where he belongs.
2006-11-27 13:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom told me when I had my first child that I was the only one who would protect my child...have you seen Enough a movie w/JLO lol I can not believe i am admitting to watch it but in the movie a friend tells her that you have a primal instinct to protect your children and your self...it is not quoted perfectly and I don't own the movie or I would quote to the T but this is your child your baby and if you are going to let it go on when you know it is happening what is that teaching your child. Your child trusts you he is coming to you to ask for help by letting it happen will not only cause damage to your child but to your relationship with your child...Then what does he have if he doesn't have you...Now if you are afraid of the other parent go to a school or church and report it explain that you are afraid and let them handle it they by law have to report it and can leave you out of the who told who part.
2006-11-27 16:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are now responsible for child endangerment and hopefully locked up along with your spouse. I can't imagine how someone can justify keeping a child in a dangerous situation when the facts are boldly staring you in the face. The child's word comes first and you are responsible for listening and protecting.
2006-11-27 13:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the kid away from the spouse, and call the police and report their a*ss!
Let the kid acuse them, if they are telling the truth.
My sisters 9 year old was mad at her one day and told a cop that her mom makes her sleep outside. Not true of course, my sister had to pay a $40 fine for her daughter lying!
2006-11-27 13:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by baby oh's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would believe them,and get him/her out. I was abused as a child mentally,sexually and physically,I am 35 now, And I am just now coming out with my abuse. I have so much anger for my dad. I recent him now that I am trying to deal with it,because of course he denies it all. As A mother you should not let this continue. Be a mom first.
2006-11-27 17:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by Mother of 2 girls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remove the child from the environment immediately. If a parent does not protect their child from abuse then they're just as guilty as the abuser.
2006-11-27 14:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by tangyterp83 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋