I'm 18, into guys around 25-34 moreso than those close to my age. Is this 'bad' or 'immoral?'

Question

I've asked around, some people tell me that this is waaay too big of a difference in age for it to work out, but when I talk to guys closer to my age, there's just not as much of an attraction. I go on dates with them and stuff, but never feel a connection to them. Obviously it's me that has the problem, and not them, they're decent enough people, I just don't find them intriguing or alluring in any way. I've been told "oh but if you date older, they'll become old guys!" So does everyone else that doesn't die beforehand, it's a kinda weak arguement. Anyway, thank you in advance for any answers.

Answer 1

I always used to seem to date younger guys, then I met my husband and he was 4 years older than me. That's when I realized that all the little twerps I'd been dating were completely immature and selfish. If you get along, and they're what you're looking for, who cares about the age difference. Though I will say, when I was 18 I was a lot more gullible and trusting than I am now, so just watch out.

Answer 2

It isn't immoral, rest assured.

But, on the same token, there is quite a bit of difference between a guy who is 25 and a girl who is 18. I am 24, and when I look back on myself at 18, I see that I have really come a long way---and I was always pretty mature for my age, too. I was a pretty wise 18 year old, but I have had quite a bit of life experiences since then. I would say that a lot of the 25-34 year olds that you would come across would be the same, too.

Now, with that having been said, I don't think it would be too big of a stretch to go after 25 year-olds, but I think that going after guys in their 30s (at your age) is a bit of a stretch. That is quite a bit of difference. Plus, those guys will be more likely to come with baggage.

Answer 3

At eighteen that is too much of an age difference. You must not be meeting guys with the same interests and intellect as you. Older men who date teenage girls are immature and unable to relate to a grown up woman. They seem intriguing and alluring to you because you are only eighteen. If you were older you would see that they don't have the maturity or intellect for a woman their age. The older you become the age gap begins to shrink. For instance if you were 35 dating a man 41 or 42 it wouldn't make a big difference.

Answer 4

My great aunt and uncle where married for 52 years. There was a 17 age difference. My first coisin married a guy that's 25 years older. He's in his 80's now, and still does all the farming. He's in much better shape than she is. At 18 you may feel like finding someone to settle down with. You won't be successful at that with a 18 year old boy. Follow your own heart. Other people want to tell you what to do. How successful is there relationship?

Answer 5

Wrong? Maybe not, but if asked the other way around - should a 34 year old date an 18 year old, I'd suspect the guy is a pervert.

Still, if you are socially and mentally on the same level as the older guy, then age is just numbers.

Answer 6

Theoretically there's nothing wrong with dating older guys that are older than you, as long as you have the same life goals.

However, at your age, you're probably at a much different place in your life than your boyfriends are in theirs. You're just graduating high school, probably, and they will have already graduated college and/or been established in their careers for a long time. You'll simply have different things going on in your lives, and that makes it so that relationships like this often don't work.

Also, with guys on the older part of the age range you mentioned, they may be looking to date a much younger woman as a way of reclaiming their youth, since they might be feeling old. In that way, it's possible that your older boyfriends are using you for what you represent and not necessarily interested in your personality. It's not good to use people.

Answer 7

its purely an excellent determination, im married and im purely 19 my hubbie is 24 an at the starting up he had a prob with the age purely because he idea everyone else would so we didnt tell each person for a lengthy time period that we became going out, an when we did they didnt even care everyone became like hello reliable on ya, an thats what i say to you....reliable on ya an i'm hoping all is going properly for the both actually one of you, :)

Answer 8

Well, atleast its leagal. if you wanna date 25-34 year old guys then that's your decission. But, be careful with the guys on the older side, some of them could turn out to be pervs just looking for some barely leagal punani :-) Good Luck

Answer 9

whoever you date will always be exactly the same years older than now, and although the very young see older as older, its amazing how young that same will look say, in about 10 years or so.
you are going to be attracted to whom you are attracted, not that every attraction is good for you, or even healthy. it is a judgement call that only you, and you alone, may make.

Answer 10

Hunny, its neither bad or immoral. Now you might want to question the motives of the older men, but there is nothing wrong with dating older people, after all, you ARE legal and age is nothing.