An ex-bf of mine calls me sometimes (monthly). Well this time he calls me and ask if he could come down to see me from another state. It's about a 3 hr drive, anyway he gets off the phone w/me about 2 AM and he is at my apt by 9AM. When he gets there we talk, later I went to sleep on him; I was disturbed when I heard his phone ringing over and over, he went to the bathroom to Answer it, and then ran down stairs, WTF?. Later he returned to say that he was only getting coffe. He went on all day after that talking about how he wanted to "rekindle our love". I was so ready for his *ss to leave. He tried be affectionate all day, this really begin to work my nerves. He said, "I know that you think I was on the phone w/another woman, but I wasn't. Insucurity is a sign of jealous." story short, i told him I didn't want a relationship w/him and that I moved on. He left, and now insists on calling my phone, I have been ignoring his calls,swearing I won't answer them. Think he is rebounding?
2006-11-27 12:58:14 · 10 answers · asked by covergirl84 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I definetely think that he probably has another girl, maybe they had a fight and broke up and he feels like he misses you, but not really. You are doing good at not answering your phone. Plus, whats with all the secrecy anyway, and why does he have to leave your apartment to get "coffee". I think he took that opportunity to call her back and have his conversation so that you would not hear.
2006-11-27 13:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Yahoo User 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be rebounding, that is a good possibility, and it is also a possibility that he wanted to come see you to analyze the relationship between you two. Reasons for this could be he wants you as a "back up plan" because seriously, if he lives that far away what kind of relationship would you have anyway? He shouldnt be trying to psychoanalyze whether you are jealous and why blah blah blah....He was the one who started with the explanations right off the bat. Good for you to cut your losses and forget about him....
2006-11-27 13:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by dramafreak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rebounding would be if he went for another chick shortly after breaking up with you...rebounding isn't continuing to contact you to get back together.
If you don't want to take his calls, then block his number. Why worry about ignoring them?
2006-11-27 13:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good call, no pun intended. Change your voicemail outbound message to tell him you wish he was MORE than 3 hours drive away and don't bother leaving a message. After caller ID says he called, change it back and delete him from your address book.
2006-11-27 13:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that you did your part. you told him how you feel and what your answer was. He needs to understand that and move on too. I actually have been through this before and I'm sure you will get through it too. pick up the phone when he clls again, and listen to what he has to say. tell him one more time, and if you want toffer friendship, other than that, let him be, and you just continue to move on. god bless babe!
2006-11-27 13:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by old 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
either that or he really does wanna be with you...maybe u should answer one of his calls and tell him that u just wanna talk and get to know one another again...see how things go...if u get to the point where just the sound of his voice gets under ur skin tell him that ur changing ur number and moving never to call or come over again that u hate him and never wanna see his face ever again...
2006-11-27 13:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by '-- *BoOg* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly want a relationship with him, talk to him about it. However if he seems dodgy, his answers don't satisfy you, he seems a bit off, it could be your instincts telling you to avoid him. You already gave him a chance so don't think you have to if you can't trust him.
2006-11-27 13:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've moved on, then don't bother with this chump. Tell him to eff off. He probably can't get another girl so he's gonna try and get back with you again. You're better than that.
2006-11-27 13:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say trust your instincts.
2006-11-27 13:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you sleep with him if you don't have a relationship with him???
2006-11-27 13:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋