Just because i like 2 men at once, does it make me bad?
2006-11-27 12:56:30 · 14 answers · asked by Happy as a clam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If "like" means having sex with, then yes you are slutty.
If "like" means enjoy being with without sex, then of course not, why would it?
2006-11-27 12:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Curious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sleeping with both then yes you are slutty,if you are just feeling them out to see who may be more compatible,that may be okay as long as it doesnt go too far.You cant put 50% of your heart into something and expect 100% in return!!!! I think based on my past they will both hate you in the end.Dont do them this way,hurts way too much!
2006-11-27 21:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by harleyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Some of my best friends date more than one guy at a time. Several share a home with their men. If you are open and honest about it, then what you're describing is called polyamory.
My last girlfriend also had another boyfriend. He and I were very good friends.
2006-11-27 21:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult question with so little information. Are you actually dating them or just liking them? If you're dating them, are you just "dating" both of them or are you having intimate relations with both of them?
The answer depends on what kind of relations you're having with them. If you just happen to like two men at the same time, nothing wrong with looking. If you're just dating, well, nothing wrong with playing the field. If you're having intimate relations with two men, well, I'm still not sure that makes you SLUtTy, but it doesn't show much common sense. If nothing else, someone is going to be very, very hurt one day and it could be you.
If, and only if, you are having intimate relations and having unprotected sex with both of them, still doesn't make you slutty, just very naive and/or hedonistic. If you're naive, you're not slutty, just uneducated. If you're hedonistic, then you would risk anything for the sake of pleasure. That does border on slutty, but I'll bet you have some type of self-esteem problem. In both instances you are risking the health of two men and yourself to AIDS and all kinds of STD's. Then there's always the chance of an unexpected, unwanted pregnancy and not being sure who the father is.
Ask yourself if you want to put yourself through any of that. We all think "it can't happen to me", but, trust me, it can.
Just dating two men at once doesn't make you slutty because it's good to explore your options before you settle on one man. Neither does having intimate relations with both (wish you'd made that clear) earn you that nametag. In either instance, some people would give you a definite "YES" answer to the question you asked.
Whether you are having intimate relations with both men or not, please consider the emotional as well as the health cost of what you call "liking".
I'm sure you wont' find mine to be the best answer, and that's fine with me. All I'm interested in doing is provoking you to think very seriously about the type of life you may be leading without being judgmental and calling you names. I only fear that your emotional and physical well-being may be in jeopardy.
Sorry for all the 'if's', but seeing as you haven't given me much to go on I tried to cover the most likely scenarios.
Derogatory terms such as "slutty" are very subjective...meaning you could ask ten people what it means and get ten different answers, so describing whatever behavior that you're active in as slutty wouldn't be helpful to you. Just count the number of answers you get to this question and see how many different ways the different answerers perceive the definition of slutty.
Since you asked the question, you lead me to think that perhaps YOU may be the one who thinks this situation makes you slutty. I think you feel that what you are doing is wrong, so if that's the case, listen to yourself...maybe you're not living up to your own expectations.
Be well, my friend
2006-11-27 21:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ann F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there! Just be careful you don't lose them both because you are keeping a secret. Make sure you are honest.
2006-11-27 21:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by spence6209@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not really classified as a slut unless ur actually having sex with them, and no it doesnt make you bad. trust me im in the same position. But wat u do have to do is figure out which one u want to be with. its not bad to like to ppl at once but it is bad to be with 2 ppl at once. keep that in mind pls
2006-11-27 21:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by Nat L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol
no that just makes u a playa
2006-11-27 20:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by elpimpinbob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Not at all Your just a point in your life when your confused...
2006-11-27 21:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by LonzmGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If like means screwing both at the same time then yes.
2006-11-27 20:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No....you should play the field....thats what dating is all about.... Have fun girl
2006-11-27 20:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by iadoremarilyn86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋