I am susposed to get confirmed this year, but I really don't want to. I feel that I don't support, mostly all of the church's views, including abortion, and stem cell research and gay people. I wanted to belong to the Religious Society of Friends, since they are more accepting of all, but how do I tell my parents?
2006-11-27 12:39:57 · 6 answers · asked by i♥TheDoors! 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
my parents say that they want me to get confirmed so i can get married in a catholic church, but me (and probably my husband) would most likely to get married on the beach or outside, because i think that the world is God's house
2006-11-27 12:44:32 · update #1
forward them this question? Or maybe ask hypothetically?
Perhaps tell them you have decided you are not ready. But doesnt mean it will never happen.
Blessings
David
2006-11-27 12:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is important to make sure they understand that you still respect them and that you aren't rejecting all of their beliefs. Initially, they may feel that you might be rejecting them along with their faith, so be sensitive. With that said, you certainly have the right to choose your religion and sounds like you have clear reasons for your ideas. Your parents might not accept your point of view overnight, but if you start the topic sensitively, hopefully they will come around. If the conversation goes really badly or it is taking a very long time for them to accept this, you may want to talk to a counselor through your school or a non-profit agency. I wish you all the best, and you sound like you have put a lot of thought into this.
2006-11-27 12:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your parents know that God gives free-will to His children. God never forces anything on His children. He just holds His blessing in His hands and want US to go and grab hold of His blessings. Let them know that you really love God with all your heart, soul and mind, but dont feel God leading you into getting confirmed at this stage. Let them know that God will lead you into a blessed life in HIS appointed time, and when that appointed time of the Lord comes, you will do what He says..
I hope that they will agree. Do a lot of prayer too. Its good to have friends...but you need to value God better than your friends. Your friends will be with you till you have money, beauty or fame...when you lose it...they will leave...,but our heavenly Father will never leave you nor forsake you. He wants to be your friends and your partner.
I wil continue to pray for you.
By the way, I'm training to be a Christian Counselor. So you may see my response a lil' bit high language. Hope you got what I meant to say... Blessings my sister.. Do visit my website at www.jerrickson.com if you need more help..
2006-11-29 19:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by Teddy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and talk with your parents, explain to them how you feel. I really don't understand what confirmed into church means. But I do know that the God wants your heart so first talk to him to see what you should say then say what he tells you. But most of all be honest.
2006-11-27 13:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Your parents may be upset at first but they love you and will get over it.
2006-11-27 12:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by David Botton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do just that.
You tell them.
Confirmation, last I checked, was YOUR choice.
If you decide not to, your parents should respect that decision.
2006-11-27 12:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋