brake up with my boyfriend but don't know how to without hurting his feeling. He is very sesitive!
2006-11-27 12:34:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no way you will NOT hurt his feelings. Only he is responsible for his feelings and actions, not you. You do not cause him to get emotional, only he does.
Let him down as nicely as possible, "I really want to break up, I just dont feel compatible with you anymore. I really want to leave and be single."
Be very firm about this. If he whines, begs, cries, and calls you at all hours. Tell him to stop, leave you alone and he is getting on your nerves. If he continues to do it, you will only get even more angry.
2006-11-27 12:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play games, and don't beat around the bush. There is no easy way, or a way that won't cause some kind of pain. It will hurt a little but be up front. Wasting time makes it even worse, and will lead to resentment from you BF. Do it quick, be honest. It will be like ripping off a band-aid. Stings a little at first, but soon heals, and you can both move on without any nasty side effects.
2006-11-27 20:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by smile_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i need to know what u r breakin up with him 4/... start off with something like this
"look [his name here] da past couple of [week/months/days/yrs/howeverlong] have been great...but i dont think that this is working out..i mean ur a great person to me and u mean the world to me [his name] but right now i feel that this isnt really working out between us...and its not u and its not me...its more of just the "timeing".. i just dont need a bf right now..but that doesnt meant that we still cant be VERY close friends...cuz [his name] i really enjoy spending time w/ u and i dont want it to end becuz we cant date each other right now.. what im trying to say is that someday im going to need a shoulder to cry on, a friend to reliy on, and who knows ... that friend might be you!" hope that helps <3 good luck
2006-11-27 20:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone almost always gets hurt feelings during a breakup...the desire to part ways isn't often mutual.
Just be as gentle and kind as you can, but remember he's responsible for his reaction and his feelings, not you. You cannot control what he's going to do or say, only what you do and say.
Be honest...and do what you have to do. He'll heal in time.
2006-11-27 20:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
settling is bad and the longer you stay with him the more attached he will get. especially at the holidays just let him know that you care about him but you do not see things going much further and you need t opart ways now before you both get hurt.
2006-11-27 20:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel. not over the phone, through an email, or a letter if you really care about him and his feelings...tell him to his face and if you can make it so you both can remain friends without it being completely awkward or humiliating for you or him. be nice. be honest. speak your mind.
2006-11-27 20:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissyt91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make an omelet without breaking some eggs, just use the old line that you need some time alone, or just come out and say that its not going to work out
2006-11-27 20:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by colvin0594 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no easy way to do it. actually i've done it in every way imaginable, even through aim lol. as long as you get your feelings across- and be totally honest with him. just sit down with him and let him know gently that you think you two need a break.
2006-11-27 20:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by damsel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be honest and truthful before turning to cheating.
if you dont have any feelings for him, then it should be simple to tell him that you just dont want to be with him.
take him to starbucks, buy him a drink and sit down for a while. when its time for you guys to leave just stand up with him and tell him that you dont think you two are right for each other and that you are ending it.
dont leave him any room for questions and dont linger. say what you gotta say and leave peacefully.
2006-11-27 20:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really is no good way to breakup with someone without hurting them.
2006-11-27 20:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by Dale Feekes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋