i think my son is watching porn using the family computer.. how do i find out if he really is doing that?? besides checking cookies and browser history?? i've checked those already.. he deleted them..
2006-11-27 12:26:53 · 12 answers · asked by cooldad59 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ive already tried to ask him but he denies... i know he is watching porn because i once came home early from work and saw the pic of a naked woman on the comp.. it was just a glimpse.. and then my son quickly closed the site..
2006-11-27 12:30:52 · update #1
my friend once mentioned about checking the computer database.. how do i do that?
2006-11-27 12:32:53 · update #2
ask him and be serious
sas
2006-11-27 12:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Saskia N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know for a fact he has been surfing porn and he's denying, it's obviously because he's embarrassed. Especially if he's deleting the cookies and browser history- he has something to hide.
All you can do is:
1)Get a cyber nanny (just google "net babysitter, net nanny, or cyber sitter, etc to get info on such programs.
2)If he's older, then there's not much you can do. He could very well go to a friend's house and watch it anyway. The best thing you could probably do as a parent is to sit him down and talk to him. Tell him you believe him that he's not looking at porn, but for future reference, that porn isnt a realistic portrayal of sex. In a lot of it, there's a lowering of women.
There's nothing wrong with him being curious, but remind him that "if" he ever looks at porn, to realize it's not reality-based and true sex between people is not in such a way. USUALLY there's not a guy with a 5 foot dick and a girl with more plastic on her than actual skin getting it on... that pornstars fake their orgasms and are at higher risk of STDs- not too attractive sounding, is it?
But dont try to guide him by being negative, making him feel embarassed or ashamed as it wont help matters and will only make him get farther from you and less open.
2006-11-27 13:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Make sure the computer is in a public, family use place.
2. Talk to him, explain to him that porn is explotive of women and debases sex.
3. Talk to him about sex preditors on line. Statistics show he has probably been propsitioned already (if over 12years old). Men posing as women will ask for pictures of him.
4. Get a website blocker, or lock the access to the internet when you are not at home. Not perfect but a way to slow him down. He may just go to a friend's...but he also may not.
2006-11-27 13:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by t S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never going to stop your son from looking for porn on the Internet. You can load any software out there, and try and of the "tricks" suggested by others. He's a boy, he is going to find naked pictures/porn. If you shut down his computer rights he will find a friend who has parents who don't take the steps you are contemplating. I'm not saying to advocate it - you're a mother - it's your job to bust his chops about it. But, there is nothing you can do. Accept the fact that he's sexually curious. This curisoty will stop when he reaches around 98.
2006-11-27 14:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by Crockeruha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good parenting trick called guilty until proven innocent. Assume that he IS looking at porn and then give him the consequences you would normally give him. The logical consequence of course would be time away from the computer. It may not hurt to put the computer in a heavily trafficked area and put parental blocks on it.
You will want to know that your concern is very very valid. Sex addiction is getting more and more prevalent with the advance of internet because internet escalates the addiction. If you continue to be concerned because he is not responding to consequences then you may want to take him to counseling.
Sex is not a shameful thing and you will want to remind him of that. There are values however that go along with sex. Share your values with him. Let him know that internet pornography is not okay.
2006-11-27 12:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by whitneysmother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him. It's natural. Especially with the exposure children get in the media.
Don't broach the subject with him. Don't sneak on his computer activity. He's probably much smarter than you (all children nowadays are much smarter than their parents, so don't take this personally).
He'll grow out of it with time. If you interfere, you will repress his natural urges, and that may take a regrettable. Just leave him alone.
2006-11-27 12:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can use a keylogger....it's a program that is hidden and tracks the keystrokes so that you can see what he's searching for or typing in. Keep in mind tho, depending on his age, it may just be a fact of life and honestly whether or not its on your pc or on video or in a magazine, you probably can't stop him. Curiosity is normal at a certain age. As long as he's not obsessed with it or talking to predators online then it's probably just a phase that will pass.
2006-11-27 12:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? The curiosity is quite normal. As for computer blocks and stuff, that's not an issue I'm acquainted with.
Talk to him about it...if he's deleting cookies and the cache, there's something he's wanting to keep from you...
2006-11-27 12:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put your computer in a room where the family is constantly in . never allow him to use the computer with the doors locked walk up on him other than that how old is he you know it his human nature for him to be curious. there are parental locks but I really don't know how you obtain these I have heard them advertised.
2006-11-27 12:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by twister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember you are the parent so sit him down and have that talk , which is probable going to be quite embarrassing , but it must be done
2006-11-27 12:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't
he is way smarter than you about computers
no, seriously, don't worry about it, he is a young man with raging hormones, let him
2006-11-27 12:29:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋