concerning the children put into my care. Am feeling extremely concerned 4 some of the children being placed in my care and am feeling very emotional (privately) when dealing with some of their issues. 1 girl, who is available for adoption and has blown 2 adoptions and 6 placements, while manipulative, showed some promise of having a really good heart, and needing a strong foster, abused beyond anything I can even fathom, is a strong and resilent child, yet, I see the damage. Is there any real hope for change? She is generous (puts money in the poor box, buys toys for other children, etc) and in general, very kind. When I took her back to the group home, cried all the way home. 2nd visit knew she needed more help than what she is getting. What do I do 2 help her & others that are coming into my care, to make sure they are getting the care they need and deserve? What can I do to be what they need? Any advice from any foster parents wood be greatly appreciated! Or should know?
2006-11-27 12:22:16 · 5 answers · asked by Tippy's Mom 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes their is hope. Just understand that's it going to take time. Children who have been abused physically and mentally constantly keep their guard up, afraid of being hurt again. It may take awhile for her to loosen up to you or anyone for that matter, but just don't give up on her. She may say stuff to you that will hurt you but never take things personally, she's just expressing herself the only way she knows how. The fact that she cries when she has to go back to the group home shows that she really wants to be part of a family and it breaks her heart for her to have to return. I work at a group home and no matter how pleasant we try to make it, most of the kids would rather be home again being abused then be without their families. Remember that you are her advocate for the time being. If you feel she needs better care then speak to her caseworker. Be persistent, many time the caseworkers are so overloaded they tend to push things aside. Don't let them, voice your concerns to anyone who will listen.
2006-11-27 13:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to answer this without really knowing several things such as how long he's been in this school and whether has any emotional scares. These things matter because adjusting in a new school could be a serious problem and could cause more harm than good. What would you do if parents at the new school found out he was a foster child. Would you run again? So while I do not believe a new school is the answer by all means defend your child. Even if your son did have a behavorial problem as a result of a difficult start in life no one would have the right to treat him poorly or to make him feel like an outsider. Make it very clear that he has someone that loves him and will protect him. If a particular parent is a problem you should ask the school to schedule you for a sit down with this parent to discuss that situation. This way you will have a mediator to make sure the topic stays on course, to clarrify misunderstandings and as a witness to all conversation. Good Luck.
2016-05-23 15:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Beverly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I teach in an inner city and see more examples of what not to do. I think all kids can benefit from the right combination of treatment, love and discipline. The problem is what is the combination. The case workers are supposed to help point you where you can get help with your questions. Hope this helps some. Please know you are doing something great.
2006-11-27 12:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by BILL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her plainly with respect, kids these days are vrey mature and very smart, if you treat her like an adult u might get some positive results
2006-11-27 12:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then she definitely has a great heart.
Show her compassion and love.
2006-11-27 12:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋