I approached a guy that I really thought we would hit it off together. He always stared at me. I thought he was interested. I asked him if he was, he said he was not interested in a relationship at this time.
It is so weird. I am willing to accept his response, however I can't get him off my mind. We have gone out to dinner even after his response. I want to stop thinking about this guy, but it is so hard. When we are together, there is just a connection. I can't explain it. It is just there. I don't want to put my life on hold waiting on someone. Please give me some positive ideas. Thanks
2006-11-27 11:58:19 · 9 answers · asked by Ucan2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Spend sometime with your girlfriends. Give him an opportunity to miss you.
Right now you are offering him companionship, but he has no obligation to you.
2006-11-27 12:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by wittmasterjay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance' and I started out that way. As attracted to him as I was, I had to focus on other things and date other people... or so he thought at the time. I know how hard it is to get him off your mind. Try not to pay too much attention to him, men get a lot of satisfaction from that and they gain control. Remember that you are a Goddess of sorts... You can be "Ungettable", and he needs to realize that. He may change his way of seeing things. And if not, well then it is time to let him go. I would try this for about 6 weeks. I'm not sure how long you have been seeing him, but if it has been for more than 3 months, you may well be waisting your time. He really may not be ready. Whatever you do, do not pressure him. You will only add to the stress you already feel just thinking about him. I remember ready in a book written by Greg Behrendt... "Don't Waste The Pretty" Good book. You might want to go pick that up. Maybe even the book titled... "When Men Love Bitches". Illuminating and funny...
2006-11-27 12:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ice Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do i need to start??? Yes there might be a connection, but you don't even know this guy. Physical attraction is great but there's more to it than that. It's so simple to move past this because you haven't even invested any time into it. Don't you realize how many awesome guys that are out there that want more than just a casual relationship. If you still can't get over this guy then just be his friend for now and maybe more can develop over time. Maybe it will, maybe it won't but atleast you can get to know him a little better and then you can tell if he is worth it or not.
2006-11-27 12:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your situation more than once!
I enjoyed the connection for a while, but they always ended up so that I had to let them go so I could be free to do other things and take care of myself.
It makes people look weak, which is unattractive to the person / people we are after. Move on as quickly as you can. Be friendly, but stop going on these false dates; it will just frustrate you more.
If he sees something in you, it will occur when you move on, but the energy should flow from him toward you. Don't wait around whatever you do! And good luck.
2006-11-27 12:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best thing you can do is believe him when he said he is not interested in a relationship with you. As far as you being a couple, it's not an option. Find someone who is interested or be happy being with yourself
2006-11-27 12:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by Sony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he was very "clear" about his "intentions", he isn't "interested in a relationship at this time". That doesn't mean you can't go out and have fun.
If you want "more" than what he is able to offer, look elsewhere!
Good luck.
2006-11-27 12:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
be yourself , go out injoy life as you normally would and either he will see you for what you are or you will find someone else that fits you better
2006-11-27 12:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by wilco254 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just try to find someone else or try to go out whit friends.
2006-11-27 12:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by black.bullet32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by going out with mr.hot (me)
2006-11-27 12:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jayvon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋