can someone please tell me why my parents always drive men out of my life. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and my parents love him one day and hate him the next. what the hell is wrong with them. first they love him, then he gets in a fight with my brother because he insulted me and my boyfriend didnt like it, so they hate him, then they love him again and always ask when the wedding is, then love, hate, love.now they hate him again becuase my mom overheard a fight we had and said that he shouldnt be talking to me like that. ( she doesnt even know what the fight stemmed from) and it was actually my fight. i purposefully pissed him off because i was in a bad mood but thats not the point. what do i do about my parents? my mom is now saying that she forbids me to get married to him.is there anything i can say to my parents that they would understand? i have to mention that im 21, and i've been dating since high school and every guy was the same case. what do i do?????
2006-11-27 11:54:40 · 7 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
james, you are so right, but how i tell that to my parents? my mom got married at 17 to get away from her mother, but now she is her mother when it comes to me. does she really want me to get her out of my life. i am going to marrry my boyfriend whether she likes it or not, how do i make her understand that without messing up our relationship
2006-11-27 12:04:15 · update #1
i live at home half the week and with my boyfriend the other half of the week. this was a compramise because my parents wouldnt let me move out. ( surprise surprise) the fight happened while i was getting ready for thanksgiving dinner at my house.
2006-11-27 12:17:31 · update #2
do you still live with your parents? if so, tell them that you are an adult, and capable of handling your own relationships unless you tell them otherwise. and tell them that if they don't stop what they're doing that you'll move out of their home. I know that sounds kind of mean, and that's not my intention, but sometimes you just need to make decisions on your own without your parents getting in the middle of your business. tell them that what they're doing is going to hurt you in the long run, because they're not letting you become a mature, independant person. I'm sure your parents love you very much, and just want to protect you from getting hurt. but like I said, they're going to have to understand that they're actually holding you back by being too controlling and trying to make all your decisions for you. tell them that you love them, but you're not a little girl anymore. and that you do know what your doing. it may make them a little mad at you, but you have to get some control of your own life now or this is never going to stop.
Good Luck With Everything
2006-11-27 12:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are 21 and allow your parents to impact your relationships you may want to examine why.
It is right to honor and respect your parents.
Are you mature enough to decide who to date or marry? If so cut the apron strings and stand on your own.
2006-11-27 20:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by Doug H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most important thing to remember, if you are an adult, have an adult relationship, then be an adult and keep the details of your relationship IN the relationship. You mom and dad should not be involved in your business.
2006-11-27 20:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask for your parents support, dont try to be with someone that your parents likes, be with the person that you like.If your happy then they should be happy for you. they should be behind you 100%. your an adult now. look at what is best for you not your parents.
2006-11-27 20:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by James R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OVER protective parents
2006-11-27 19:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by jeremy1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That what parents do They love you and dont want to see you hurt.
2006-11-27 20:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by sumer h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them to not cause issues in your personal relationships
2006-11-27 19:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by krispy67665 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋