Kid trouble?

Question

I have a 14 yr old daughter who has low grades in 3 major classes. Not the first time .. she is very moody hates to help out with anything around the house lies about her homework. Punishment does not help.. She does not talk about her feelings. Is mean to her 5 yr old sister and now she is getting interested in boys .What would you do ?

Answer 1

Well I hated that age when my daughters reached it. I sent one of mine to live with her father for over a year. She hated it. By punishment you didn't say what kind. Do you take away her computor if she uses one, forbid staying overnight with friends, ground her from the telephone for a week, do you wash everybody's clothes but hers etc. Tons of punishment that usually works. I also put mine on birth control pills at that age, cause you just never know what might happen. If her father is around and you are divorced let him have her for awhile. Sorry that's all I can suggest. Maybe get help from a counselor.

Answer 2

I would put the girl into counseling. I would also look into getting the girl a tutor to help with her schooling.
It sounds like there may be a deeper problem here other than normal teenage rebellion. The low grades, lies, and lack of responsibility could be signs of drug abuse, depression, or other serious problems. I would want to find out what it is, and what can be done to help her. Since she won't tell you on her own, a trained and licensed therapist can help you to talk to and deal with her better.
BTW, her interest in boys is normal. So I wouldn't worry too much about that. Just make sure that you have as many talks with her as possible about safe sex, and how to deal with boys in general.
No matter what you do, you have to show her love and support. The more you are involved in her life, the less trouble she can get into.

Answer 3

I went through that exact thing when I was 14 and younger. It may be due to something that happened in her life. Any major changes in the family? Like moving, divorce, death, ect....
Total disassociation from everything can be from depression, wanting attention, or just going through the teenage thing. Just let her know that if there is ever a time that she would like to talk, you will always be there for her. Just have patience and let her come to you. Always let her know that you love her and are dependant on her too.

My mother took me in for counseling and I was diagnose with depression, anxiety, and I have a bit of ADD. There were some major things that happened in my life that triggered these.

Answer 4

o my, i have a lot of friends in your situation that i'm so worried about my kids becoming teenagers. i feel for you, i really do.

i have a couple of friends whose teen-age daughters think of me as the 'cool aunt'. i tolerate most of their actions and show them as much fun as i can - shopping, movies, etc. they enjoy being with me so much that they try not to do things they know i would frown upon so they would not be on my bad side. their parents take advantage of that so when they need to get a point across their kids - they use me. i talk to them heart to heart, give advice and offer rewards. it's easier for the girls to open up to me since "i'm not their parent". maybe you could find a friend or a relative to play the same part for your kid. most teens have the tendency to look at adults (specially their parents) as the enemy. if it's a war, then you gotta send a double agent. someone they would think is one of them but is actually working for you.

hope this works for you. good luck!

Answer 5

well i'm not a mom but if thats my daughter i would try to teach her a lesson like no more shopping or the things that she like to do don't let her. and now that she has more free time you could help her with homework. talk to her like my mom talks to me give her advise show that you care and the punishes she gets is because she earned them. talk to her teachers ask what you could do to help her. hoped this helped:)

Answer 6

spanking