THis guy that claims he likes me hasnt known me for more than a week and hasnt seen me for more than 3 times.
He calls in the morning, lunch, afterschool and night. says all these gushy things that i dont really know if i should believe.
he says he misses me all the time and that he really really likes me and wants to be with me but is willing to let time tell, is willing to wait
i feel that all he is doing is pressuring me and im giving him more feeling than maybe i should at this moment because everything he does just seems so cheesy.
what should i do?
2006-11-27 11:46:08 · 13 answers · asked by sam3345 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
RUN! Clingy guys are bad news.
2006-11-27 11:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys like this freak me out. Too clingy way too fast. I know exactly what your saying, the guy hasnt even known u for 6 months, so how could he possibly love you or have all these deep seeded feelings for you. I agree with you, he probably doesnt, cuz its just not plausible. He sounds like he is in love with the idea of being in love with someone, not necessarily you. Im not saying he doesnt have strong feelings for you, but i bet if it were a different girl he would be saying the exact same things. Guys like him are too rehearsed, and too cheesy to believe. And you know what.. theres a reason for that, its cuz they really are too good to be true. Find a guy whos real not fake. Thanks Bye
2006-11-27 19:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer Lopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few steps i'd recommend, from a male perspective of course:
a. Don't take his calls. Regulate when you answer your ph. & be consistent about it.
b. Tell him you don't want to hear his gushy stories.
c. Throw the "I can wait" right back at him, by insisting that "waiting" involves not calling you all the time.
d. Finally, don't be pressured. No one can make you do anything. Trust yourself, be rigid(yet consistent).
e. Post-op: Evaluate results after 3 weeks. Small steps. Repeat process, if necessary, with lesser boundaries this time.
2006-11-27 19:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by 23Characters 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always run like hell from guys that come on that strong! Seriously, he doesn't know you well yet claims to want to be with you all the time. Coming on that strong this early in a relationship is a red flag for control issues later on. He sounds like a potential stalker.
2006-11-27 19:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by Joyce H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of things you might do. Check to find out if he's got a record and call the police. Unless you have encouraged him in some way, he's way off base and unbalanced. Don't let yourself be alone with him.
2006-11-27 19:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a complete liar don't believe in him. U r wasting ur time by taking his calls just ignore him.
2006-11-27 19:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by Dark Side 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sounds a tiny bit like me on the other side....., but I try to not be so clingy I promise.
2006-11-28 22:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. He's most likely a sad loser who has no options or a control freak who will make your life a living hell. Either way he's nuts and you should get rid of him.
2006-11-27 19:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and let him know that you are interested in someone else at this time and this way he will leave you alone and be cheesey and clingy with someone else
2006-11-27 19:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He's a girly boy who can't control his emotions. He is a stalker in the making.
2006-11-27 19:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋