I need help with my sister from hell!! I can't deal with her anymore.?

Question

My sister as been acting more like a selfish idiot everyday now and I can't deal with it anymore. She has been causing everybody in the house trouble. She lies so much its an everyday thing now. And she eats everything in the house and does nothing to help out. Her excuse (she really said this) is that she doesn't like people telling her to clean because she doesn't like to. My parents are getting divorced and everyone doesn't want to deal with her crap any more. (It isn't because of the divorce because she has been acting like this her whole life.) She even downed a 2 liter bottle of coke in like 3 hours then said she didn't when its obvious that she was the only on who did. She'll also do things like eat everything in a box or bottle and put it back empty. To make things worse is that she yells and hits my dogs. Today she was litterally yelling and cursing at my dog to eat. She is a very timmid dog that my dad found as a stray a few years ago so of course she's not going to eat.

Okay she's 12 (I'm the oldest) and she is spoilled. She gets away everything with rarely any punishment and my parent's don't tend to stick to their rules (like you have to finish cleaning before you can go. She'll just lie to them and do what she wants). She has always been like this but she's just fatter and lazier now. And I know that once she hits high school we're all doomed. My mom can't take her because 'she can't trust her to be by herself' wich is actually (I'm starting over and your in the way) And for some strange reason My sister like mom better ( that or she's that dumb). (My dad is the one who has been telling her that she is old enough to help around the house). To make matters worse she not all that smart. Every single grade including kindergarden she has been at risk at failing. I've worked with her she's not stupid in fact she can memorize how to spell a list of words in a day if she wanted to. She is just flat out lazy.

Answer 1

i am sorry for u i know u r in so bad situation
its ur parents faults who got divorce without any care about u and ur sister
u r really nice person for try to behave ur sister
u should try all the time dont loss the hope i am sure one day ur sister will get back to her mind and understand the right from the wrong
from ur talking i think she is still young is she young ?
if she is young so u have to take in ur mind that she dont be able to diffrenciate between the right and the wrong
try to ask one memebers of ur family to solve this problem
and u too try with ur sister

Answer 2

it really seems that your sis has alot of issues that she need to face. maybe she's acting out for attention or help. sometimes thats the only way some ppl know how to ask for help is to act, i can't say she's doing it on purpose because i don't know her only what you are saying. i would like to know how old is your sis, and are yall close or were you ever close. what are the things that you love about your sis try to focus on that, or maybe the family can get together with your sis and let her know that her behavior wont be tolerated and she must take full responsibility for the things that she is doing. also if she is upset about the divorce of your parents, they may want to assure her that it was a mutual agreement, and had nothing to do w/ her. if none of these things work, she may need to go see someone on a professional level. but in the end she will always be your sister, and if she needs you to be there for her by all mends be there for her. support means alot when someone is going through. i hpoe this advice helps you and your family deal w/ your sister. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 3

Um, OK.
Is she a tard or something? How old is she? 13 or 30? Some of the people I have had the pleasure of dealing with are pathological like that and I wind up taking them to a psychiatric facility, mostly with the family's tacit consent.
Simply put, your sister is in dire need of a special kind of help that lies well beyond the scope of this forum.

Answer 4

I know you said that is wasn't the divorce, but it certainly hasn't helped her. She is angry and is using displacement with the dog. She is hurt and possibly using food to calm her. She needs help. Talk to your Dad or Mom. The girl needs some counseling. She sounds very selfish. I am so sorry. My sister is a pain, but yours is a lot worse. Do not let her hit the dog anymore. That is plain cruel and unnecessary. Take what food and pop you want and hide it from her. If she wants to play games, you can too. Good luck.

Answer 5

I cant agree more with getting her some professional mental help I dont want to diagniose but she sounds alittle CRAZY, I dont know how old you are and Im sure the Divorce thing is hard on everyone but for your own peice of mind get out as fast as you can. Are there some other supportive relatives that can take you in perhaps Normal relatives?

Answer 6

If you were reading a psychology book and the persons
symptoms were:
Over eating
Mood swings
Deliberately starting fights
Animal abuse
Out of control
What would your conclusion be??
Sounds like a desperate cry for attention,
and a real need for professional help.
Maybe your parents could take time out of their busy day
to see about this kid in a real way. Talk to them.
I'm sure their plate is not so full that they can't help her.
It's either that or visit her in jail.
Might want to have her drug tested.
Been there. I wish your family Lots Of Luck.

Answer 7

This sounds pretty bad. I suggest your whole family goes and gets some kind of counselling, because once things get this bad it's often difficult to reverse them on your own.

If that's not an option, then there are still some things you can try. I would suggest doing your best to remain calm no matter how much everyone is else is being a crowd of jerks. You could even try being overly nice to your sister, so that either one, she realizes what she's been doing to you and stops, or two, she gets frustrated with her current annoyance strategy and abandons it.

Answer 8

It sounds like your sister is going through a lot herself right now and the more the family treats her like she doesn't measure up the more she will act up. It seems to me that your sister needs love not name calling. I think she should be in therapy because the more she is an outcast the more she'll act like one! I feel sorry for your sister! Tell your parents said your sister needs some counseling and Please do it in a nice way!

Answer 9

Go live with the parent who doesnt want custody of your sister, or if your sister is an adult, she needs her butt kicked out of the house. Anytime she starts her yelling jags or hits your animals, call the police on her until she realizes that her garbage wont fly in the real world.

Answer 10

Your sister is eating herself to death to feel better. She needs help. Unfortunately these kind of people repel more than they draw help from others. All I can say is, times change and things don't stay the same, someday you will be away from her. Just do your best and spend very little time with her.