is it good to marry young when you are between 20 and 25 years old?

Question

my boyfriend and i are going to be living together and then get marry when we get enough money for the wedding...he proposed to me, we have a very healthy and lovely relationship...we both work and go to college...and our families approve! we are in love!

Answer 1

very good time to get marry indeed

:> peace
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Answer 2

A girl asked this same question the other day and this is exactly what I told her.

"I am turning 21 in January and getting married in June. My fiance just turned 20 in August. Nobody has the right to tell you that you are too young. If you love him that is all that matters. And you know maybe the statistics do show that the divorce rate is higher for couples who get married young. But who cares. You'll never know unless you do it. The thing that aggravates me the most though is that people sure can dish it out but they can't take it. The next time that somebody tells you your too young ask them how old they were. Chances are they were younger than you. My fiance and I will be together for 4 years when we get married. Ask alot of older couples how long they were together. Probably less than a year. My aunt was 16 when she got married and she is still married to the same man. She even quit high school to marry him. And she is American and he is Vietmanese. I bet nobody thought that they would make it. They are happier than ever. My mom was like around 18 when she married my dad and they are going to be celebrating their 30th anniversary this March. I don't believe in the statistics...I believe in the true love that I see everyday with my parents, my aunts and uncles, my coworkers, and even my older sister. Don't let anybody tell you that you are too young and you'll regret it. Who are they to tell you how your going to feel 10 years from now. Sometimes I think those people are just jealous!!! lol! Good Luck with everything!!!"

But basically everybody is different. Some people know exactly what they want when they are 21, some people don't find out until maybe their late 30s. You can only do what you think is right for yourself because nobody else can tell you what to do. Plus you have your parents support already, what else do you really need. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Age plays a role in getting married. I wouldn't suggest anyone get married before 25. You are still learning and changing into an adult (even though you may believe you're an adult now).

Every single person I know that got married before 25 is divorced now. The odds are definitely not in your favor if you do it before then, statistically speaking.

Over 50% of marriages end in divorce (and if you in California, it's an even high percentage).

You don't want to regret not being able to do a lot of things in life (travel, date around, party, develop yourself on your own) because you got married too early.

Wait. There's no rush. Once you do it, it's forever!

Answer 4

If you are in love then age doesn't matter. My fiance and I have been together for 6 1/2 years have been living together for almost 2 years (in Jan) and we have two kids together. We are both 22 when we get married summer 07 we will be 23. Love conquers and rules all, and if you guys can see each other being together for the rest of your life's, then do it. And don't worry about what other people think about how old you are!!! My great grandma was married by the time she was 13!!! Congratulations!!!

Answer 5

Make sure you have a supportive spouse before you marry (at any age)--by support I mean emotionally and financially. Once you add a few kids to the mix...along with the many bills you accumulate.....REALITY SINKS IN....I highly recommend not marrying until your 30's. This will give you a chance to do some living, without forcing yourself into an unhappy situation. Make sure he will be there for you and the kids...at any age. I'm speaking from experience....life is swift and quick...nothing makes you feel older than a spouse that isn't much of a spouse at all. Good luck to you....there is no key to happiness, the door is always open.

Answer 6

Okay, think long and hard. Do you want to see Europe, go out of town to different cities all the time, go out to bars, hang out with your friends on an almost nightly basis? These are not bad things just part of growing up.

The age that you marry has a lot to do with the average maturity for that age. We see alot of folks get married when they are younger, then get divorced soon after. They are called starter marriages. However if you are more of a homebody who enjoys staying in versus going out, is used to compromise, working things through, and can look ojectively at given situations that you are involved in... Then maybe you are ready

The most important thing is that you are HONEST with yourself. If you feel that you would still want to go out often, versus sitting in be honest. You will have a lot less grief.

I married at the age of 22. I was ready though, I was raised by my grandparents and had to mature alot faster than most. I don't dig the bar scenes, alot of my friends would rather stay in than go out, so alot of those fights never reared their heads. However, in our first year we fought alot about money, budgeting, work, bills, and just silly stuff that we laugh about now. But then it was serious, locking him out yelling nasty fights. So, tread softly.

It doesn't matter really how long you have known eachother, you will change so much in the next few years, you won't even recognize eachother at the end. Decisions will be made that you never thought he would decide "that way" etc.

Honestly, it depends on you two and open communication, maturity and all that I listed above.

Hope This Helps, And Good Luck,
Amy

Answer 7

i don't think it's a good idea. there may come a point in your life where either of you feel like you didn't have a chance to experience life on your own. at that point, if you're not able to do something as a couple to fulfill your needs, one will begin to resent the other. those cases most often end in divorce.

however, if you're able to keep communication open, and give each other space enough that you both feel like a individual part of a team (instead of two halves of a unit), you might be able to make it past the hard time. most often, that occurrs in 6 to 7 years of marriage in couples that wed between 20 -25.

Good luck!

Answer 8

I've been living with my lover for almost 2 years now, we're both in our early 20's. The only reason that we're not married is because we're too busy travelling around the world to bother going home to have a stupid wedding. I think it's okay to get married between 20 and 25. I'm 22 and I've already dated around, travelled and done the things I wanted to do with myself, but it's not as if my marriage is going to be the typical 'settling down' that baby makers and money hungry people experience. Talk extensively with your lover about the things you want to do in life such as education and travel or baby making. Try to find common ground and see that you have similar goals and interests in life. If you want to spend your years traveling in Asia writing novels, but your lover hates travelling or wants you to stay at home and mother his children, you might just have a problem. Of course that was only one example.

Living together with someone can be very easy, that's not the problem that ruins marriages. You've got to agree on things like money, family, goals in life, ect.

Answer 9

Well statistically, it is said that no, it's not good to marry younger than 25.

The reason being that a person doesn't even truly know themselves until at least the age of 25.

But I guess it really is up to you and what you think. But to me, if you have to post a question, it means you're unsure and maybe you need to wait longer.

Congrats and good luck!

Answer 10

Living with him will show you if you are truly made for each other. I think it's important enough to know if you can be around each other 24/7 because that's what married life is. I got married before i was 25, i love my husband deeply and i can't imagine living without him, we are now pregnant with our first child. If you live a true, committed love, just go for it. You are not a kid anymore. Congratulations to both of you!

Answer 11

If all goes according to plan, I will be 22 my fiance will be 24 when we get married. We are deeply in love and I know we will be happy together. Remember...marriage is a union sanctioned by God in which you are meant to stay together as long as you both shall live. It's a serious decision, if you feel you are not ready, don't rush into it...you have your whole lives ahead of you.