I have a really good friend that I've know for a few years now. I just dicovered she's in love with the same exact guy I'm in love with...she just doesn't know I love him and I've loved him for three years now I've just been to nervous to confess this to him. She just met him two months ago. I've known her for a while through different academic and recreational groups. She just made a move on him and asked him to lunch...he refused and she's very upset! Now I cant tell her I love him because that would break her heart and she leans on me for support through this tough time. I feel so two faced and I never thought this would happen! How do I tell her? It's driving me nuts! I need to confess to her!
2006-11-27 10:57:40 · 11 answers · asked by Brie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Follow your heart, t'will show you the way.
It may be bad to tell her, but if she really is your friend, she'll get over it..
Those who mind...dont matter..
And those who matter... Dont mind.
2006-11-27 11:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks of you as a good enough friend as you think of her, she'll support you and urge you to ask him out. If he didn't want to go out with her, theres not much she can do about it. On the other note, you might want to give her a month. Be sensitive to her feelings when you tell her, and hopefully by the time you tell her she'll be interested in someone else.
In regards to asking him out, I say go for it. Like I said earlier, wait until she seems over it, but definitely don't let him get away. I know what its like to let that happen, and its much worse than taking a chance, which I've done too. Its worth the risk to give yourself peace of mind.
2006-11-27 11:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Malth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just tell her what you think. She will get angry and sad but you have feelings for this guy. If your friend is really a good friend then she would understand and would let you and this guy to be together. If she doesnt want to be your friend anymore then that is because she is jelous that she couldnt get him. If you really care for her and dont want to hurt her then I suggest that you just go get a new guy. Thats the best advice I could get you. I hope it turns out okay.
2006-11-27 11:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by lovelywhite3o3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN TO ME! Girlfriends and boyfriends will come and go, but best friends are forever! If you confess to your best friend, and she's still upset with you, then just repeat what I write above. I hope that everything works out for the best.
2006-11-27 11:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is a true friend she will understand,just explain to her that you have liked him for some time now,and you were waiting until you were ready to let him know,if she already asked and he said no then you gave her the chance first,as long as you dont go behind her back and hide or lie about it,then there is nothing wrong,if she is truely a friend she will want you to be happy,just like when you gave her first shot.
2006-11-27 11:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by joannluna1974 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confess what? That you liked him first? Come on little girl! Why do you have ants in your pants to tell her for? To thoroughly crush her? Thats all I can see. So suck it up and comfort your friends "through this really difficult time" and stop thinking about HOW you can tell her this, she doesn't need to know you liked him first, its immaterial and immature!
2006-11-27 11:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit her down and tell her that you didnt want to tell her to hurt her feelings but now when you saw that he doesnt want to go hang with her. So u thought u might give it a try.. if shes a good friend she should understand..good luck
2006-11-27 11:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by blue_Eyes03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.
number one, it isn't called "falling in love." you have more of a strong crush. love is a two-way street, both people need to be in it completly for it to be love.
as for your problem,
i would say give her some time to cool off. maybe let her find a new guy, or introduce her to someone new.
&& once, you know she's completly over him,
then you can tell her.
2006-11-27 11:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by poprocksncoke030 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie is a very proud thing to do da impossibelities, so confessing to your friend is da impossible for u,honey do it n be free.even da bible says tell da truth n it shall set u free so be positive to your friend.
2006-11-27 11:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by diana b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and tell her. me and my best friend both like the same guy. its not as bad as your love but if she's not cool with you liking him, dont go after him. friends last forever boys dont.
2006-11-27 11:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Carol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋