Non-Muslim American Man marrying Muslim Woman?

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Non-Muslim American Man marrying Muslim Woman?

Please, can you tell me a link or direct articles that explain the differences between the crash of this 2 very different cultures?

I born Catholic and she born Muslim; she told me I must convert to Muslim to marry her.

I want to know what things will change for me in all the senses. Plus, I want to know what her family & religion will want of me to satisfy the wedding now and forever.

I want to know what our children will be exposed to. How my life will change?

Indeed, I want a complete explanation in details of how it will be for both. I love her and I will do what ever will be necesary to be with her.

Is there people with this similarities experienced already?

Where I go to get that information? Link(s)?

I need please your councils.

A Catholic man born in America

Answer 1

I am a Muslim Woman. I understand and respect that you love this woman, but most Muslims will tell you that this relationship is not meant to be--unless you sincerely and truly do become Muslim...Our religion is a "way of life"--with many strict requirments. You may think that things are great now--but after marriage--you may be overwhelmed with how different your life will be.

For starters, your children will be raised as Muslims. There will be no eating pork, no drinking alcohol, and no smoking...She probably prays 5 times a day..In addition, we fast once a year for 30-days during the holy month of "Ramadan"--where we abstain from food, sex, and fighting from sun-up to sundown.

As a Muslim Women, she will also not tolerate any use of pornography by you--whether it be interner porn or cable tv. I understand that almost all non-Muslim American married men see nothing wrong with watching porn. That is a sin to us, and considered disgraceful.

I dont know if you are having pre-marital sex, but that is a sin in our religion. I'm not judging you, but if you are not sleeping with her now--you never will until your honeymoon, if that does happen.

If she is telling you that you must become a Muslim, then she means that she only wants a Muslim for a husband. I'm sorry, but if you aren't sincere in your interest in Islam---then I'm sorry to tell you that this relationship is not meant to be.It is only a matter of time until she becomes increasingly fustrated with the fact that you arent a Muslim--and she will probably begin to realize that there are just too many Muslim single men out here that she can consider for a husband...

I hope that fact doesnt cause you to become a "fake Muslim" who pretends to be Muslim just so you can have her as a wife--if you truly do believe in God, then you know that hypocrisy is a Sin.

Please realize that you may just have to face reality, sooner rather than later.

Read about "Understanding Muslims"--its a short, basic article.
Peace

Answer 2

Married Muslim Woman

Answer 3

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Answer 4

As the psychology and position in society and the household are different for the two sexes, so are the rulings regarding each. In the case of marriage, it is commonly recognized in virtually all cultural groups that the man is the head of the household. That is not to say that there isn't power-sharing between the spouses which varies from place to place and family to family, but men tend to have a dominant position within families generally. In light of this fact, Muslim women are not allowed to marry Jewish or Christian men for fear that they will have a certain amount of dominance over them and their children which may preclude them from practicing Islam. There is no guarantee stipulated within either of these religions which allows a wife of another faith to practice her religion freely. On the other hand, A Muslim man is required by Islamic law to not hinder his Christian or Jewish wife from practicing her faith. As to the expansion of empire idea, I would think "the more the merrier" would apply. If all the Muslims married anybody else, irrespective of faith, wouldn't that lead to this expansion faster? And yet, there are limitation for the specific reasons mentioned earlier. In addition, the exception for Christians and Jews is due to the similar beliefs and values that are shared as opposed to other faiths. On the demographic front, it is a good thing that there are far more single Muslim men coming to America than there are women or families. So there is some balance to the numbers in terms of pairing. Finding enough husbands to go around here in the American Muslim community is not much of an issue and neither is polygamy.

Answer 5

You can't change your beliefs based on love of another human being. Marriage is for a lifetime. Eternity is forever.

I'm a Muslim woman who used to be Catholic, and I believe that Islam is the correct path, but I strongly discourage you from even considering converting for the sake of a woman.

The morals and values of Islam are identical to the morals and values of Christianity. If you do choose to convert to Islam, I encourage you to read the Quran and study on your own. May Allah bless and guide you.

Also, your family would probably be upset by your conversion. Are you prepared for that? My family is finally starting to accept my conversion to Islam, after only 2 years, though they still aren't exactly happy about it. My mother wishes there were some man she could "blame", but in my case the catalyst is different.

I think you should back off a bit from your relationship with this woman, and study Islam on your own. If you find that it feels right for you, she can help you to learn more, and your marriage may work out well, inshAllah (God willing).

I wish you all the best, and may Allah continue to guide and bless you.

Answer 6

Christians are haram (unlawful) for Muslims.

Think again! You were not born Catholic.

Your parents made you Catholic and you never developed into adulthood because you have not questioned what your parents have given you and you remain irrational and misguided.

We are all born Muslims or created Muslim but our parents make most of us what we are.

If you wish to marry her you need to leave your past and walk into the new life of a Muslim fully conscious of what you are doing.

To become Muslim only to satisfy your love for a woman or lust for a woman is not what Islam is about.

I was Catholic and married the daughter of Muslim parents.

I became Muslim 12 years after our marriage and it was not because of my wife but because Allah softened my heart to Islam and guided me to Islam. It is the greatest thing that ever happened in my life.

I can advise you to get a copy of the translation of the Quran and a copy of The Age Of Reason and do some studies.

To read the Quran as a Catholic you must first cleanse yourself and approach it with an open mind. Say a prayer to the Only True God (of John 17:3) and ask for guidance.

See how it goes.

NB never mind holy_flush who simply flushes himself. Quran is not a book between two covers but is lecture on Scripture from the Lord of all the Worlds. All flush flushes is the paper, which is worth even more than the brain he thinks he has.
He loves the flush as Satan loves him.

Answer 7

Hope everything works out for you. I'm a muslim interested in marrying a non- muslim man.

Answer 8

I think you had better find someone closer to home to talk to. You will get all sorts of answers (bad and Good) on here.

One thing I will tell you--to accept a religion you cannot follow is not the right thing to do. Islam is -I think-a much more logical religion than Christianity. But, you are the one who must live it. I'd try to study it very hard----I think you just might like it.

Answer 9

Religion plays a very important part in Family life. Married couples different religious faiths normally have problems; I won't advise it.

Answer 10

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