My boyfriend of a few months went out with a good female friend he knew before me (he dated her for a month or so, but broke it off because he says there was no spark for him, but they've stayed friends). He's dated other women after her, and now me, so I think he's moved on, but it bugs me that he seems really close with her & he's even said she still wants to think of them getting together even though he says it'll never happen. Well, then why when he went out with her just as friends the other night, did he tell me he was with one of his guy friends (a friend of mind saw them together, so that's how I know he lied about being with his buddy). I don't know if I should say something to him or just let it go. I can't seem to forget about it, but I believe he just didn't tell me because he knows I get upset/jealous, and since he knows nothing's going on, he'd rather just avoid getting into a hassle over it. Would you confront him about the lying?
2006-11-27 10:33:23 · 18 answers · asked by Kimmyq 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lying to protect your feelings... is that what they're calling it now?
When a guy is seeing someone, other female friends need to be kept at a distance. Socializing together in groups of friends is ok, but he needs to cut the one on one bs. Would he like it if you went out with former boyfriends? I didn't think so. This looks one sided in this sense. Tell him to cool it on the female dating, he has you. Lying by omission is still lying. It's how all guys fool around! I meet more and more guys with a regular gf plus a side wack. Don't make excuses for him, either. If the guy wants to date, then he shouldn't get serious with anyone and play the field. Be firm, and draw the line. You are not being unreasonable by confronting him and saying what you really feel on this matter. If he loves you, he'll respect your point of view.
2006-11-27 10:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mike H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With some guys there's no such thing as a dead relationship. If there wasn't spark then, there may be spark now if they're fooling around and it seems fun and naughty. He may just be playing you while things grow between them.
HOWEVER!!!!!
It's been my experience that people tend to overreact when it comes to Ex's. Give your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt, he may have just ran into her when your friend happened to see them together. I've been in the wrong place at the wrong time before and I'm sure you have too. Just don't think about it for now but don't forget about it either. If another situation comes around then maybe it's time for you to move on.
2006-11-27 10:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by ihatestupidclowns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 20:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes confront him....you know why? b/c it's bothering you and when something bothers you, you need to clear your thoughts or else it will just eat at you. he lied to you so that means he had to feel uncomfortable about the situation or else he wouldnt've lied that's just gonna only cause problems within your relationship and make you not trust him...and the way he's doing things makes it look as if he's doing something....eventhough he may not be doing anything with her it's just the way he's going about it...so yes you need to confront him on it and ask him why he would lie if there is nothing going on.
2006-11-27 10:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not a relationship u want to get into. if he's not gonna be truthful about something like that what else is he lying about. if there really was nothing going on. he'd just tell u he was gonna hang out with her. i would definitely confront him about it. but of course he's just gonna deny there was anything to it. like most people that lie.
2006-11-27 10:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually, this is the exact reaction he didn't want.
Go ahead and confront him...BUT...Don't be mad at him. He obviously loves you enough to be with you.
I have a BEST friend (female of course) that I actually married. We didn't click as husband/wife so we got the divorce and to this day, we are still best friends.
2006-11-27 10:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would confront him, he is only protecting himself when he lied. if he loves u he will make an attempt to make things right. how do u know nothing is going on? u only know what he is telling u.
2006-11-27 10:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems like he is just tryin to protect ur feelings cause he knows u would get jealous but i wouldn't hurt to confront him about it i would confront him and ask calmly and nicely ask him about him and see if he comes up with the same reason as u or a better one or if it seems like he is just making excuses u make that decision
~that's wat i would do
2006-11-27 10:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by savedgirlp3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl, i would just ask him about it or u might break it off for the wrong reason or stay 2gether wit him 4 the wrong reasons. but i would ask him before u make a drastic move!
2006-11-27 10:37:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't confront him because it could turn into a HUGE argument! If he knows nothing is going on and you know nothing is going on then drop it. If you really love him and he really loves you he wouldn't be so stupid as to go and mess it up over some ex girlfriend.
2006-11-27 10:37:38 · answer #10 · answered by peace, love, happiness =] 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋