My brother is 13 and he is very bad. He threatened to kill me and my mom at night by cutting our throats only becuase my mom wouldnt let him get his other ear periced. He beat up my dad because my dad told him to do his homework and he didnt want to sooo my dad kinda shoved him to sit down and he went nuts. He kicked and punched my dad like 15 times over it. Then he ran away from home for about an hour. He hits me and beats me up all the time. Even how many times my parents tell him not to hit girls. My parents just sperated like a couple days and he has gotton worse. He gets F's all the way down his report card besides the subject health. He through a knife at my door just because i wouldnt go in his room to see that he put lights around it. This isnt half the things that happened. I really dont know what to do but ive been told to have my mom send him away to get help but is that the best thing to do? I mean well i just wish i could wake up with my brother saying "I love you".
2006-11-27 10:23:49 · 19 answers · asked by bananaboo517 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If what you are saying is true he needs professional help. I would say contact a community mental health center near you. He probably needs the assistance of both a psychiatrist and counselors. If he is really bad off he may have to spend some time in the stress ward of a hospital. If you feel the threats are really serious, then call the police. If he is put in juvenile detention then try to get him out and into a professional psychiatric care facility.
It seems like he needs to learn how to express his feelings constructively and may not know how or doesn’t have the opportunity to do so at home.
On the other hand, he may be reacting to you and your mother and father. Is there another relative he respects and he could stay with?
Keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with psychiatric care if it is done right. At least he needs counseling.
Try to talk to him calmly. Families often have a tendency to say the wrong things at the wrong times. If he is excited don't try to deal with the problem then. Try to calm him down. Try not yourselves to get drawn into it and try to remain calm. Try to deal with the problems when he is calm.
People with mental illness usually have cycles when the illness is worse than at other times. If he is in the throes of a bad cycle the best thing you can do is to leave him alone until his mood improves.
Probably the whole family needs counseling. This is almost always the case.
A trusted counselor can be a neutral third party for him and my be the calming influence he needs.
There are several drugs that may cause the symptoms you are describing keep in mind that psychiatric care is usually much more productive than law enforcement. Law enforcement should be contacted as a last resort if you or your family feels seriously endangered by him.
You and your family should by all means avoid guilt. Guilt is never constructive in these situations.
Of course no one can say anything for sure without seeing him. At least he needs to be evaluated by a qualified professional. In this case I would recommend a psychiatrist.
Do not panic at the thought that he may have a mental illness. Many people with mental illness lead quite normal lives. Treatments have advanced remarkably in recent years. Many of the new medications are quite effective. The worst is when people with mental illness go untreated and/or deny it.
Good luck. God be with you. You are in my prayers.
2006-11-27 11:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by lobster37 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i seen a show on Montel about kids gone bad.. and from what you are saying matches what the kids were saying on the show, that sometimes it's bipoplar, that the kids need 2 be treated 4.. once your brother is on medication, and with the right doseage, you and your family will see a big change in your brother, 4 the best : ) have your mom, take your brother, 2 the doctor.. have your mom ask about a test 4 bipoplar.. and your brothers harmone are raging right now too.. the doctor, can balance that out to.. pretty scary huh.. we all will be thinking of you.. check back and let us know how your doing : )
2006-11-27 16:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother needs to have the cops cool his ace in juvie for a few weeks---that type of behavior cannot continue and trust me, it will get WORSE---apparently he has NO rules, does he? Everyone's just afraid of him and will do what he wants "or else".
Well the prisons are full of grown men that started out like your brother I know you love him but the next time he starts his crazy sh!t, threatening, stabbing, CALL 911!!!
He's probably the reason why your parents are splitting up, sorry to say--I bet one parent is stricter than the other, and they both argue a lot over him and his crap.
CALL 911!
2006-11-27 10:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The next time you have other girls over at your house you need to have you and your friends control him. If he starts hitting you, then you have to get a few girls to carry him to his room and put him on a chair. Once on the chair, you have to have a few of the girls hold him down while the other girls tie him to the chair. When he is tied to the chair, you need to give him a makeover or if he still does not behave lock him out of the house until he behaves.
this answer deserves 10 points
2006-11-27 14:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is easy. you wouldnt tolerate this from a non-family member, so dont take it from your brother. its abusive and dangerous. next time he does anything involving knives, physical harm or threats, pick up the phone ( where he cant hear you and get even more violent) and call the police. they will deal with it. its their job. they will even know how to further help you and your parents. your family is in over their heads with this boy. you cant "make" your parents send him away..if they were willing to do that, they already would have. The only way to protect yourself ( and the rest of your family ) is to have flashing red and blues pull up to the house. god bless.
2006-11-28 03:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by cheese food product 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be some intervention of some kind in the home, before someone gets hurt. Your mom needs to talk to someone about getting him some help..If it continues he will hurt someone...If the parents will not take a stand..talk to some you trust..You should not have to be in fear all the time in you own home...Please try to get some help or find some kin to stay with for awhile or forever.......
2006-11-27 10:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your brother apparently has a serious problem. It could be a number of things from depression to, schizophrenia. I suggest that you and your family go to a psychiatrist to get to the bottom of this. All it may need is some simple medication
2006-11-27 10:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I knew #3 and 5 and really didn't make it through the rest. Some of those were quite disturbing, and I'm not sure that I'm really a better person now knowing all of that.
2016-05-23 15:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sooo sorry you are having such brother problems. It sounds though that at least some of his anger and violence is a reaction to something else going on - your parents not getting along. Lots of times kids don't know how to handle the feelings they have when their parents aren't getting along or are separated and so the kids explode - or hold it all inside and get real sick.
Do you have someone you can trust that you can talk to about the situation? A teacher? An adult friend? Is there a minister that you know?
If you really feel threatened, if you really feel that he might seriously hurt you or do something real bad, you need to talk it over with someone who is older and who knows how to help. do not delay.
you need to talk to your parents about the situation. Maybe you already have, maybe you are scared to do it again, but you need to do it again. They need to know exactly how you feel.
and, yes, i hope you can ask god for help, too. He knows about your situation and He wants you to come to him and pray to him about it. Don't think about nice formal prayers- just talk to God from your heart. Tell him how you feel, what's going on. Sure, God already knows but He really wants to develop a friendship with you and so He wants you to talk to Him about all this stuff.
God cares, God understands, God wants to help...
Maybe your brother does need to go away for awhile, maybe not. but you, your dad and your mom all need to talk and talk and seek wise counsel from someone....
God bless you!!
2006-11-27 10:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by happy pilgrim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say, but it sounds to me that your brother needs some real help here. why don't any of you call the police on him when he is acting this way? if the police get involved they will charge him and the courts can send him away to get help. your parents need to do whats called tough love here before someone gets hurt.
2006-11-27 10:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋