A few months ago I took a break with my girlfriend and the next day hooked up with a random chick. Then we got back together and my gf found out and now reminds me everyday that I cheated. Is it time I break it off with somone who can't forgive me?
2006-11-27 10:16:25 · 23 answers · asked by Dave H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you weren't cheating if you guys had "taken a break".
And if she can't forget about it, then why did she take you back?
I'd personally lose the baggage and find that other chick again.
2006-11-27 10:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by Joe Somebody 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really dont blame her. It's such a hard thing to get over. One thing i know for a fact is that she may never get over it. Which means she will always bring it up. If you dont love her that much, then just let her go. But if you love her a lot, then i'll say hang on and just keep proving to her that you love and care about her and you'll never do it again. Show her that she means so much to you, action speaks louder than words. As time goes on she will get over it. But try not to cheat, or do anything suspicious that might make her feel that you are cheating again. One last thing, if you wanna keep her, sit her down and have a long talk with her. Let her know if she still wanna be with you then she needs to stop throwing things at your face, or if she cant handle it then she can go ahead and break up with you. Dont tell her you will break up with her, she might hate you for life. You dont want that if you care about her.
2006-11-27 10:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by Monica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you were technically "on a break" as Ross and Rachel fought over on Friends, hehe, then she should try to forget it. If she reminds you every day, you need to remind her that you're with her now, and wouldn't do it now, if you truly wouldn't. She must have thought that when you were on a break you really weren't on a break and she is truly hurt. If you love her, try to help her understand what happened and that it won't again. If you don't want to put the effort in, drop the relationship.
2006-11-27 10:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by the_proms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be time for couples counseling Dave. She can't forgive you yet, because this is new information. Did she do anything while you were on this "break"? It may be guilt, or just plain hurt. At any rate, you need a mediator and she (gf) needs to be able to vent about it. She hasn't walked yet, so probably she loves you enough to want to work on your relationship. I hope you used protection and aren't exposing your gf to the other girls nasty....Yes???? Dave, Best of luck. Nana
2006-11-27 10:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, what you did was wrong. If you can't handle your girlfriend then it's time you leave and find a person who would love you and forgive you aslong as you can stay honest. Or just tell your g/f that ur sooooo sorry and tell her to give ya one more shot and start overs. Take her out or something.
2006-11-27 10:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by mkaym11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were you that was cheated on then you wouldnt even be asking this question. She has every right to feel the way she does,,and i dont know why she took you back,,,and no she WILL NEVER FORGET IT. You really cant blame her can you??? She has lost all trust in you and i dont think things will ever get better so maybe you should end it.
2006-11-27 10:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You technically weren't together... so it's not really cheating? I dont know... I could see how she was hurt by it. I think you need to ask yourself how much she means to you. If you don't want to lose her, sit her down and say "I'm sorry I hurt you. I wish I could erase what happened but I can't. Is it possible for us to move past it and just enjoy each other's company? I don't want to lose you" or something. Be truthful. If you could care less if you're together or not, well then, it doesn't really matter.
2006-11-27 10:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by sunshyne1432 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her about the fact you're thinking of breaking up with her if she can't forgive and forget. Give her a chance to get over it before you just decide on your own that you're going to dump her over the way she keeps bringing it up. She may feel entitled to keep harping on it because she's hurt. I think it would be unfair not to give her a "warning" that she's going to lose you if she can't get over it. Then, if she still keeps bringing it up, you should definitely say "adios".
2006-11-27 10:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmyq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, don't break up with her. It's not her fault she cant get over the fact you cheated on her. You should live with the guilt forever. If you want her to forgive her tell her that you were stupid for cheaten on you and im very sorry please find it in your heart to forgive me. I promise never to do it again. You should so not break up with her. Thats what I would do if i was you.
2006-11-27 10:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by sugarluvr2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. If she cant forgive you, you bet she is going to continue feeling that way forever. Dont blame your girl though, she feels violated even if you were apart. So show her the respect she deserves by leaving the situation and lettign her sort her own feelings out.
2006-11-27 10:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋