I've noticed that more and more men are cheating constantly. When does it stop. Is one just not enough? Why do you have to have more, especially black men? Why even after you're caught, you lie or continue to do it? I just don't understand and it's so hard to want to get involved with a new relationship these days. I'm just thinking guys cannot remain faithful.
2006-11-27 10:13:07 · 13 answers · asked by CrazyLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's possible for guys to remain faithful. u just have to find the right one. there's many of them out there.
now if only i can find a girl that can remain faithful hahaha.
2006-11-27 10:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a blackman and I can tell you that being faithful is something that I look for in a woman. It's important to a lot of guys that GIRLS are faithful. I understand that it may seem that more guys than girls cheat on their significant others but it really goes both ways. I think that you're just looking for someone that will be faithful to you, maybe you've been hurt in the past, but not ALL men are like that. You have to treat each new man as just that, a NEW man, it's not the guy that cheated on you. I know it's hard to be that detached from your emotions but look at it from the perspective of a guy who may really be faithful and looking for someone that's the same, if you let that opportunity slip by, it not only hurts you but the guy that you pushed away. It's ok to have your doubts as long as you communicate them to him, whoever he is, let the guy know from the get go that you have been hurt before and never want to feel that way again.
2006-11-27 18:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by benn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt beat yourself up too much about cheaters. It comes and goes. I am a man, I was faithful to a cheater. It happens, you just have to grin and bear it, when it happens. Then GET OUT and never go back. It's not worth getting hurt. Not only that, if they're hurt that you didn't come back and forgive them maybe it will save the next person their with a lot of heartbreak.
Find someone new and make sure they understand how you feel about cheating. Also buyer beware, ask if they've cheated before you get serious.
Alot of times cheating comes from peoples own insecurities. Just doing it to feel like they still have it or like their still hot.
Take it with a grain of salt and move on. It's not worth beating your head against the wall and it is unnacceptable behavior for a relationship.
Good luck.
2006-11-27 18:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cabbage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for others, but it's been my experience that people, not just men, cheat for a reason. Usually they're not happy "at home". They look elsewhere for what they need, what they yearn for. Keep your man happy, keep EACH OTHER happy, and his head won't be turned so easily. When we get busted we either want to avaoid confrontation or hang on to the life we've got. And some guys, a minority of us, do it anyway. Those guys are just DAWGS! Don't judge everyone by a few bad experiences. Look within yourself, the kind of guys you're attracted to, and try somebody completely different. Your luck might change!
2006-11-27 18:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every guy is different and yes most of them are dogs but if a guy is just cheatin on you to get back at you for something than hes not worth the pain under any circumstances. And i dont think your race matters because i know alot of white men you have cheated with several different women and if a guy REALLY loves you then he wont cheat
2006-11-27 18:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by sarah g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE PROBLEM IS INSECURITY. Instead of being honest and remaining single so that we can have and date as many women as we choose we have to have a back burner or woman in our pocket. I am not speaking for myself as i love being single and can date as long and as often as i want. I am speaking for men in general. Another issue is are the needs of these men met by their significant other? IF THEY ARENT MET A MAN WILL WASTE NO TIME IN FINDING A WOMAN WHO CAN MEET HIs NEEDS AND VISA VERSA. Another thing to look at is a mans desire to have more than one woman. The solutuion to that is simple. Dont have a relationship with a woman if you know you cannot commit to one woman. Unfortunately these same men dont see this and in the end women such as yourself get stuck in the middle of it all and get hurt. Dont know if this answered your question, but it definitely is the truth. :) Ciao
2006-11-27 18:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 39 and have never ever cheated on anyone I have been involved with. Unfortunately, my last girlfriend cheated on me. I don't think this is just a male or black male only problem. Remember, cheating requries two people, and one of them is usually another woman.
2006-11-27 18:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by captainkirkwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not tar all men for the actions of a few. Many men go thru life, day in, day out, and are faithful.
As an aside, in MY marriage, it was the WOMAN that was unfaithful...
True men are still out there, you need to stop shopping the boys...
2006-11-27 18:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by Axeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 32 and i have never cheated and never will. not all guys have no morals.
but as a general thought, society seems to tolerate cheating, so people think it's ok..
2006-11-27 18:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am and can be for the rest of my life. My fiance is so awesome and there is nothing that anyone else could offer me that she can't. I can't stand guys who cheat.......
2006-11-27 18:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by Steven A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋