How do you tell someone who doesn't have a job & gets into trouble w/ the law to leave your house? My father doesn't pressure my half-brother about it to much. My dad would rather do bills or balance his checkbook than confront my half-bro.
2006-11-27 10:12:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is going to be really difficult to remove this half-brother from your home (which I am assuming is your father's? based on this question) -- because without your FATHER wanting to confront the issues of his freeloading and NOT wanting to work -- then the situation will stay the same.
You can try to talk to your father -- but this is the way I told each of my children when they turned 18 yrs of age:
I sat them down -- and at age 17 -- they KNEW that there was only 2 choices in MY HOME (and it is MY HOME because MY Hard Work EARNS the income that PAYs for EVERYTHING in it) --
the first choice was to go directly from High School to College -- and to do well in the College, but ... they STILL had to take a part-time job somewhere to help with their expenses as well, AND ... they had to RESPECT the house rules -- which meant -- NO alcohol, NO Smoking, NO drugs or anyone over that has any addiction problems, be in the HOME by a specified time, and NEVER, EVER speak to me harshly or mistreat me, as well as do Certain Chores.
OTHERWISE ... they had, from the date of High School Graduation 3 months to find full time employment, save the money necessary to put a down payment on their own place, and MOVE OUT -- because enough is enough.
IF they did not go to college or get a job -- then I told them I would start Eviction Proceedings from the home -- and I would DEFINITELY do it.
Needless to say -- College was the choice for both -- and they are in College with income from a part-time job. They are living independently and I am FINALLY Enjoying my home to MY SELF and it is peaceful and quiet and I am LIKING it that way.
2006-11-27 11:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad probably feels like it's his fault your brother is so irresponsible. Considering you said half brother. You sound sensible and well adjusted. I'm sure your dad has a plan.
So until your Dad has had enough, there is nothing u can do about it. Except don't let him come to your house when Dad finally gets enough.
2006-11-27 18:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a time frame. If he doesn't find a job in that time frame, you gave him fair warning, boot him.
If he does get a job, then set another time frame, this one is how long he has to stay off of a police scanner. If he makes that one, then everything's good. If not, boot him, he should have saved enough money from the job to do okay for himself.
You can't save 'em all man. It sucks, and no good person likes to admit it, but that's the truth of it.
2006-11-27 18:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by Takfam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since I take it you are not a freeloader then you must have a place of your own so just let you father worry about it on his own and be thankfull you are not a freeloader and got out to there.
2006-11-27 18:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your dad either own or lease the place and both of your names are on it, then you can legally have your half-brother removed. If its your dads place, then its his decision. Best thing to do is remind your dad he can not rescue and save your brother if he does not want to saved and the best thing for your dad to do is let him do it on his own.
2006-11-27 18:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by John L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your father, ask him how he feels about this. Let your father know you will help him get this guy out, all he has to do is say the word. Respect any decisions your father makes.
2006-11-27 18:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order, then throw him out. I did that to my younger brother. He didn't work, lived off me for a year, always promising to get a job, but never did. Nothing else works.
2006-11-27 18:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I can understand how you feel.....but what can you do???
Its your dads house...and you both have to respect him.
So in answer to your question I say have a heart to heart with your dad and let him know he is doing you both a disservice...
I wish you a happy and long life
Peace
2006-11-27 18:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by KorvetteKaren 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there isn't much you can do about it, if your dad won't stand behind you.. it's your dad's, house.. i went through that with my brother too. and i ended up being the one not welcomed.. by my mom...sometimes the one that does the less, get's the best,,, place at the table.. bummer eh..
2006-11-27 18:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fill the front yard with land mines, Id like to see him get in then.
2006-11-27 18:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋