My boyfriend and i were in a fight/argument and at one point he said that he feels like im asking him to change certain things about him and i said that I loved him and wasn't just telling him that certain things upset me and trying to get him to lessen the frequency of them.
Anyways this is the first time either of us said that they loved the other. He didn't respond pos. or neg. about me saying it and we were on the phone so no i have no reaction..
is it likely that its because we were arguing and he didnt want to change subject or wasnt ready to say it.. or is that a bad sign? Would a man normally say something if he didnt feel the same way?
He's very hard to open up and talk about his feelings.
we're in our early 20s and been together about 5 months (i know not long at all) in case it matters
2006-11-27 10:10:21 · 12 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In the relationship I had...no response meant no feelings....noone can say for sure if he loves you or not, but he would have spoken up if he felt the same. OH...and this guy and I had been in a relationship for three years...........
Another instance.....just because a guy "says" he loves you doesn't always mean that he does........if someone loves you ....they will say it........not feel pressured into saying it because the other person feels that way.........you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink!
2006-11-27 10:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by aes_bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time, and don't hold this against him. When he's ready, he will let you know how he feels. This doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, but there is a heavy commitment attached to those words and that can be a very scary thing for some people.
Also, he may be confused because of the context in which you said that you love him. He may be thinking that you just said that to change the subject and the mood if you were fighting when you said it. Men don't always say how the feel and he may not have felt right about saying that under the circumstances.
2006-11-27 10:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by mstigerlilies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man I can vouch for him. Guy's like to portray themselves as tough guys. They don't like to open themselves to just anyone, he may love you but he is unsure that if he tell's you then you and him got into a major fight and you guys broke up then he would be hurt for telling you something very personal. In a simpler meaning; i'm just trying to say that he may love you but doesn't want to tell you because he is scared that you will dump him after he tell you. Wait a few more months or even a year, if he doesn't tell you after a year or two then he may not love you.
2006-11-27 10:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by CompWiz56 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make excuses for him. Either the feeling is there or it's not. I use to say the same thing about my sons father. "he has a hard time expressing himself" But he doesn't have those same issues in the bedroom! It's all about what he wants and obviously it's not love! Sorry
2006-11-27 10:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its positive he didnt offer up the response i love u back. I never think its a good sign for men to say it just because you do. Let him say it when he is ready. That way it will mean more.
2006-11-27 10:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Evilish13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might not have gave you an answer because maybe he isn't exactly sure of his feelings.Maybe he isn't in love with you yet but really cares for you, so he might not have wanted to say he didn't love you and upset you and I'm sure he doesn't want to lie to you and say he loves you. so i would leave the subject alone and give him time to think about it which believe me he is.when he is ready if he ever is he will approach the subject him self. p.s. if you scared him of he will act distant towards you if he is thinking about how he feels and he might think he does he will probably act nicer
2006-11-27 10:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by tracemiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! Get real! You're 20, live a little, move on to the next one, then the next one, etc. Then one day you will see that you are worth more than this BOZO and that may be the day you will find someone you will not have to ask to change.
2006-11-27 10:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by Texas_Aggie95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a large step for men. He is most likely not ready for that type of commitment. For now all you can do is show that you care. Now he lost his chance to say it 2nd. Hes got to go first when he IS ready
2006-11-27 10:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by idontevenknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not really information that you have to tell him. If she bothers you, that's your problem - but you should respect her anyways. My Boyfriends Mom is a LOT to handle, and I used to LOATHE her, but over the years I have come to love her - how would you feel if your Boyfriend told you he hated your Family?
2016-05-23 15:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try asking your question again and again until someone gives you the answer you want to hear since that is all you wanna hear anyway. Good luck with your selfish loser boyfriend
2006-11-27 10:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋