When you feel so bad....You dont know what to do?

Question

I am lost
i feel so bad half the time and think about sucide alot.
i have been seeing my thearpist for a while, but some how i get the feeling she dosent know how bad i really feel, how can i show this? becuase i mean no good with words and letters.

Answer 1

Hello,

You are only thinking this way now because your feelings are preventing you, or stopping you moving forwards. (I can relate to that kind of circumstance!) If you feel lost then thats your reality, & you have to face those feelings if anything is to shift or change. Feelings change like the wheather, right now your wheather is a deep low.

**I know this sounds paradoxical but if your brave and face your hurt, pain or the feelings of being lost then something else happens thats my experience.

**If you cannot share your real feelings with your therapist then you have to ask yourself why? that might be so. Is it because you dont trust them, feel they dont understand. Your therapist can only help you if you take the risk to trust them ( and I am talking from my own experience here).

**Its your feelings & emotions that matter here more than anything else, especially because letters, & words & yahoo or whatever else wont help. You have to face the feelings, the pain etc before this can change in my opinion.

**The one thing you can be certain of in life is change, even feelings change.

**True change only takes place when you feel safe enough to change.

Seing the way forwards depends upon your feelings as well as your thinking. You have to tell, explain or show how you feel to your therapist, trust!! Change will come by itself if you allow it, if you dont stop it.

My heart goes out to you, I wish you well. Do talk to your therapist honestly.

Warm Regards to you across cyber space (sending you a hug!!)IR

Answer 2

I am assuming you are in the UK. Mental health provision in my view is pretty ropey not to mention thin on the ground. Some therapists are better than others. Some are simply terrible. And most people have to pay £35 an hour or more to see them because NHS provision is so poor. Of course if you are feeling really crap this is not the time you feel like getting assertive. I suggest you recruit a friend or relative to give you support. If this therapist isnt doing you good then ask to see someone else. Get your friend to make the call if you need to. Even more importantly, see your doctor and tell him or her about your suicidal thoughts. Don't hold back. After all if you had a broken leg, would you let them hum and ha and send you out to hobble about for a couple of months? Of course you wouldnt! If things get really bad then you shouldnt hesitate to call Samaritans, that's what they're there for.

Also, as other people have said, get some exercise and find a goal to look forward to, both these things will help.

Answer 3

Let's talk about you, you've got lots of things going on in your life. You are the most important person in your life at the moment. You have to step back from your pressures and think of yourself and what you want from life and the people causing your problems.

Sometimes we cause the problems ourselves and don't know how to right them. Often taking a good look at ourselves and being very honest with ourselves can help.

About thoughts of suicide. If you do an attempt, in a "cry for help" it will mean going to A&E and having your stomach pumped out, not nice, and a stay in hospital Also Mental Health Team with persue you with lots of outpatients appointments and possibily drugs for depression. On the other hand, you might succeed - you just might go to sleep and you'll never ever be here again to know what happened or the effect it had on your family!

I'm sure they love you.

Make your counsellor understand how you really feel.

Answer 4

I excersize when Im sad, or I'll go tanning. My husband and I both suffer from S.A.D. (seasonal affective disorder) we get sad when the seasons change, and feel lonely or anxious. You just have to realize that you have symptoms... they dont have you. You can change your life, its not set in stone. If you want to do something, DO IT. But dont mope around feeling sorry for yourself because nothing will come of it. I've felt lost TONS of times.... I just realize the big picture. Im a decent human being. I contribute to this world. Im worthy to be here. Realizing these things has changed my life for the better in so many ways. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

You are just off track babes I suffer awfully with bouts of depression
you must get yourself ou t the house
get excersizing
get with positive people or support groups
anything consistant and positive will help you soooo much
tell her your not good at expression and write your feelings down between appointments and show her xx hope this helps you
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Answer 6

You've told us and managed to get your point across very well so tell your therapist the same. Use the words you have use here. Explain that you don't think she understands just how low you really feel. Good luck x x

Answer 7

hi i know how you feel i have attempted suicide 3 times in the pass it is hard. i think you should open up more to you re conciliar and tell her how your feeling. Are you on medication? I'm taking Prozac and i feel much better now i know a lot of people don't like antidepressants but they do help through bad times. good look

Answer 8

i think u should tell her exactly what u just wrote here, i'm no expert but i don't think that's the solution for any problem...sometimes i feel very sad i live alone and my parents are in another city, also my friends, i don't like what i'm studying and i'm afraid of death.....i went to a therapist and i talked a lot, i think that it helped me but i'm not completely sure because i got together with my boyfriend and he really helped me...i think the problem is that i was too much time alone....so, my advise is : don't isolate, talk to your friends or family...good luck

Answer 9

thanks for bringing out the dad in me. My girl went thru a time where she felt pretty low. There is always someone who loves u. You have to remember that sometimes it can take years and years to find the one who loves u most. That in itself is worth waiting for. The promise of tomorrow in their eyes?

Good girl for sharing and a great step. Keep talkin it over with people, maybe on here. Try to ignore the religious loonies if they come on. You don't need to read thru 6 passages of the Bible. You need real love.

Answer 10

So you tell her you have a problem with expressing yourself. She should think of a way to help u with this. Good luck and i hope you find a way through this bad time x