My fiance' mother is driving me crazy.. I am sorry to say but she is a back stabber. She treated her son "my fiance'" like crap since he was little up until now. She and I used to get along pretty good until she got into my face last year and that was the last straw for her I don't call her as much or do anything with her daughters. Her daughters are just like their mother all they have on their mind is sex and wrestling and drinking beer and they are 18&20. They both lie to cause problems. His mother came down for thanksgiving and I had gotten sick well she told my fiance' granfather how I should get off my *** and do the dishes when I didn't even hardly eat anything.. when they come down eat us out of house and home and use every dish and silver ware in the place
use 1 cup then get another. So my question is how can I get her to understand that she needs to come to me and talk about if she has problems. I don't mind doing the dishes I would have done them but I was sick so plz help
2006-11-27 09:42:25 · 8 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Pull her aside and tell her outright: "while I am marrying your son, I are niether your daughter, nor a child and I will not stand for you to disrespect me... If a problem ever comes up that involves me, let's handle it like adults and tell me directly."
Draw clear lines and stick to them. Don't expect it to work, but they will respect you!
2006-11-27 09:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Judi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of trying to make her come to you, why not go to her and talk with her about your relationship with each other. If she is going to be your Mother in law you need to get this solved. It's not true when people say you don't marry the family...you do in a sense. They will be a part of your life forever once you're married so talk to her about your feelings. Getting it out in the open will make both of you feel better. Your husband should also talk to her about you and how she treats you.
2006-11-27 09:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. Most women go thru that stage with their mother-in-law. Talk to your fiance about it. Don't be afraid to tell her how you're feeling. Besides, you are marriyin' her son not her. If she doesn't want to listen then let her talk. Remember that atleast you tried to fix things between you too. She's the one missin' out on a great daughter-in-law.
2006-11-27 09:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Morena461 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to do this..
Your fiance should take care of this matter for you..
He is your lover and best friend...
He should care for and protect you...
Talk to him, if he can not or will not deal with it..
Then you need to find a better man to marry...
2006-11-27 09:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Paper plates and cups next time...lol
Tell her to talk to you - not put you down.
Putting you down when you're sick is a little kicking you when you're down.
2006-11-27 09:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you want to be in this family? You do marry the family too, you know.
2006-11-27 09:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All in-laws should be placed on a raft and set adrift.
2006-11-27 09:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the life of all women. I had to move 3000+ miles to get away from mine. Now things are great!
2006-11-27 09:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by nemraC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋