why does it bother me so much?

Question

I am in a relationship with a guy, who has a very "not so nice" ex wife, she cheated on him more then once, and i know this from her mouth, and not rumors, yet she tells people he left her for me, when he left her,cause every time he goes to iraq she cheats on him, and some how turns it around where it is his fault that she cheated. To make things worst, she seems to cheat on him with guys that are not single, doesnt she care about anybody else. I just wish she could take responsibilty for her own actions, and I hate her using me as an escape goat so she looks like the victim. It only bothers me when i think about it, but it stll makes me mad.

Answer 1

maybe cause u don't wanna see anyone hurt him cause u like him

Answer 2

This is what she wants, she wants it 2 bother u cuz she is insecure about herself that she makes people mad 2 make herself feel better. Everytime she opens her moujth with her story people give her the attention she is looking4. & everytime u react the way u do towards those people they believe her even more. So 2 stop this the only thing u can do is ignore the comments & move on. U have 2 show her that her words don't bother u & eventually she'll move on with her own life.

Answer 3

Well there's your problem there's no such thing as an escape goat :)


Scapegoat

Main Entry: 1scape·goat
Pronunciation: 'skAp-"gOt
Function: noun
Etymology: 1scape; intended as translation of Hebrew 'azAzEl (probably name of a demon), as if 'Ez 'OzEl goat that departs--Leviticus 16:8(Authorized Version)
1 : a goat upon whose head are symbolically placed the sins of the people after which he is sent into the wilderness in the biblical ceremony for Yom Kippur
2 a : one that bears the blame for others b : one that is the object of irrational hostility

Answer 4

Why do you care Mindy, about what she does? Is it because it affects your current man? Let it go and if he must, let him deal with her. You stated in your text in the present, she cheats on him every time he goes to Iraq. Are they divorced? Just let it go. Life is to short to keep yourself upset over some immature person who can't keep her legs together. Take care of You and forget her! Good luck. Nana

Answer 5

No because it really is a lead into get your interest. What keep on with ought to worry me. Yours is sensible. do not enable the little issues worry you. watch for more beneficial stuff that you'll be able to administration.

Answer 6

she probably just realizes how low she is for sleeping around while her husband is away and needs to generate some buzz about someone else, (you or him) to take the heat off herself. don't worry about it. people like this don't need assistance, they have the ability to self destructive after a while. good luck!

Answer 7

She sounds like a jealous crazy bi**h to me. Don't let her ruin your relationship with him. She's playing head games with you and all she wants is to get under your skin. Don't let her win! Just ignore her and maybe she'll grow up.

Answer 8

This is too nutty, too much drama for a relationship, walk away from it. Certainly stop talking to her! And don't be so concerned about what she is doing and with whom she is doing it and whether she is taking responsibility for whatever, concentrate on yourself.

Answer 9

Do they have kids together, if not then why are you all even still communicating with her. If they do have kids them you need to let him how you about the situation, and if he does nothing, don't let her get to you, after all you got HER man. Good luck!...

Answer 10

If they aint got no kids together then screw her. She aint **** and aint gonna be none. She's not gonna have to act like she's the victim when she reaps what she sew.

Answer 11

honey...i don't know what to tell you cuz i'm not and have never been in that kind of relasoinship but try to ignore her she just wants attention and she's using you to get it if you ignore her she might back off...