Loving Fellatio?

Question

I love to give head to my boyfriend. I can do it for a long time,enjoy it, and even get off on it.I invent all kinds of techniques. He used to LOVE it, but recently he asked me if "maybe I'm too sexual and maybe i just need tender love and care?" He also wondered if I am like that with all my previous boyfriends,.....etc.Basically, he became weird about the history and cause of this passion I have.When I say I just love you and love pleasing you, he said I'm crazy because women are supposed to like TLC, not hardcore sex.Where is that coming from?Am I crazy,or is HE?

Answer 1

Wow, that's huge, I don't even know you and I think I'm in love. Seriously... I know you can break up with him and date me and he can be your therapist. Why would he analyze you like that, he sounds a little insecure. You loving fellatio is great, I think more women should be like you.

He is probably worried you had crazy sex before him and will be afraid that he's not living up to what other guys did. I think you should tell him how lucky he is to have you, make sure he knows you're pleased with him and that what he does makes you happy.

Tell him not to worry about you, that is cool because it seems he's genuinely concerned. Let him know nothing is wrong, you weren't molested by your freaky uncle and you're not living out your childhood nightmare. Hopefully he'll relax about it and enjoy.

Maybe he needs some TLC? Give him a hug!! Before and after the hummer....

Answer 2

hi,

i don't think you are crazy at all.

i think what's really happening here is that your boyfriend is feeling a lack of emotional connection with the relationship.. guys don't like to admit it, but we are soft sensitve creatures too. and although we are supposed to like raw sex with no emotions, this is far from the truth.

rather than get right into the oral sex, try spending some quality time just cuddling and kissing for a while.. tell him you love him and give him some soft TLC that he wants..

once he's in a better mood, then proceed to the oral sex..

as far as your previous boyfriends, i think your current boyfriend is questioning whether you love him or if you just love oral sex.

tell him that those relationships are in your past and they have no affect on your current relationship.

bottom line, relationships are all about compromise and consensus.. this requires good communication so that both partners are able to get the love and the sex that they need..

Answer 3

If you do it for a long time especially after he's reached orgasm the first time he could be getting sore. I have experienced that in the past.

Also there are plenty of women who LOVE what he calls "hard core sex" He needs to be educated a bit more. Every woman is different, but I can't believe how many men still have misconceptions about female sexuality. That idea that women aren't into hot and heavy sex began nearly two centuries ago and began to be debunked by Masters and Johnson in the late 1950s with their research. His thinking is actually even pre-20th-century!

Answer 4

First, it sounds like he is crazy, but he's not. Maybe he's feeling that you're over-performing the act and he's not giving you the TLC that you deserve. However, a woman that loves giving it is not refused in the real world. Someone mentioned earlier, receive the TLC he wants to give you, then give him that oral pleasure that you love to give.

(Lucky mother$#@%&%. Who would say some ignorant s#$@ like that? )

And for the women that keep yelling "Men are never satisfied, men are never happy."

If you can convince me that you're not the same way, as you say we are, then I will be quiet for the rest of my life.

Well, let me get back to talking.

Answer 5

Lol you remind me of my wife. So if hes anything like me, you this should be rather helpful. My wife gives head just to give it, i dont ask and sometimes dare i say i dont want. At first I did enjoy there lips on it any time i could get the cahnce but after a while, as the relationship grew, I just wanted to hold her like most women want. I felt that maybe i was taking advantage of this benifit she offers me sometimes twice a day. I would argue that while it does feel great, i want to do something for her from time to time or just spend our alone time talking and planning or just being all flirty with each other. Its not that any one is crazy, its that you are not like most women in the sensitivity area. Sex is how you express you care as oppsed to most gril who want to be held or hold there loveing and just say all the things on there mind when it comes to loving the other person. He is not at all crazy, like i said if he is anything like me he just wants you to know that its not all physical and that while that he knows you express yourself that way, he wants to show the benifits of being the lovey dovey type.

Answer 6

First off, you are not crazy. He might be, but that isn't what you are really asking.. There is absolutely nothing wrong with fellatio and it sure isn't hard core sex. It is just a lovely way for a mate to show affection and is great fore play. I think he has a jealous streak and feels intimidated by your previous loves.

Answer 7

Ya hes freaked out. Trust me. MANY MANY men in his shoes would be just fine with you going down on them. Your bf is a little scared and thinks youre a freak in the bed and you are. But you are with him. Continue to communicate with him and let him know that while TLC is important to you, being a freak in the bed is a good thing, not a bad one. :)

Answer 8

Sounds like he's been talking to his friends or something, and they're making him nervous about your feelings. Heck, maybe they're just jealous and giving him sour grapes.

There are lots of different ways of showing how much you love someone, but maybe he's thinking that you're more into his penis than you are into him. Have you talked to him about how serious your relationship is? Maybe he's worrying that you're just into it physically, but not emotionally.

Sounds like you need to reassure him and let him know that you do actually care for him.

Good luck!

Answer 9

No he's the crazy one. Some people like pleasing other people and get enjoyment out of it. That's why there's positions like 69. Furthermore I think that all the guys in the room will agree that it's great to find someone like yourself.

Answer 10

HE is babe! Thats such a stereotype, saying women are meant to like TLC. And besides, most men love getting head and he should be grateful hes getting any at all!