okay, so this boy broke up with his girlfriend or his girlfriend broke up with him, the story really never got straight and i didn't want to be constanty asking about it. but anyways, now he is single and me and him have been basically boyfriend and girlfriend just without the title. so we aren't going out but we still call eachother all the time, hang out, cuddle, kiss and make out....i talked to my friend about it and she told me that his friend told her that he liked me a lot but he just wanted to be single for awhile. well why would he want to be single when he likes me and knows i like him back? i mean i understand he needs time but he rushed right into this little thing with me and that was his choice. how can it even be considered single when he is pretty much seeing me all the time and kissing me? i don't know i just feel stupid for liking someone and kissing them when they just "want to stay single for awhile." but honestly, shouldn't i feel stupid?
this guy is also my ex bf
2006-11-27 09:21:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, what you are hearing about him wanting to "be single for a while" is basically hearsay and if he hasn't said it to you then it may not be true. Sometimes guys say one thing to their friends to sound "cool" but say another thing to the girl they like because they feel they can be more honest and emotional vulnerable with a girl.
So, ask him where all this "hanging out" is going. You've been his girlfriend before so you know what you're getting into and whether he'll be honest with you. If he says he's really into you and wants to go out with you, great! That's what you want, right?
If he says "I don't know" or "I want to be single for a while" then I hate to hurt you, but you are filling a need of his when he's lonely or feels like messing around, but he isn't interested in filling your need of being a legitimate girlfriend as opposed to some chick he makes out with.
Don't feel stupid, just find out the truth about how he feels and then do what you need to do to protect your heart and your reputation.
2006-11-27 09:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by janine_says 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, dont give yourself away to anyone. Why by the cow when you can get the milk for free????? You are being used. You are worth so much more then just a makeout partner. Keep yourself for someone who truely loves you. Each time you give a part of yourself away like that it is one part you dont hold for your true love. When that special person comes into your life, you will be so happy that you dont have baggage from being hurt by others using you, it will allow you to soar in your life relationship. I dont think you are stupid because you are questioning what you are doing - and that tells me your heart knows it is not the right thing for you to do.
Be good and loyal to yourself and you will be fine.
2006-11-27 09:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by GRETCH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before it goes any further think about what you want. It sounds like he just doesn't want to get into anything serious right now. He probably does like you but doesn't want to be exclusive. If he's your ex, you know a bit about him and his personality. Maybe you should think about why he's your ex in the first place. If you want commitment from a guy then move on or just enjoy his company but realize it's nothing more. The decision is yours.
2006-11-27 09:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you real;ly don't know what it means to be single or to love some one.You say he likes you and you like him too! but yet you don't love each other enough to stop being single and contract a comitted relationship called marriage.He wants to stay by himself in order to clear his mind and focus on what is actually determining for his life. Just think about it for yourself and be patient.Actually you should grow in a relationship with someone febore accepting his kiss!
2006-11-27 09:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by Song I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR NOT BEING STUPID!!!!
Just cool things off for a few days, and when he asks you what is wrong say that you would like to realy date him, and when he is ready for that just to give you a call.
don't let yourself get used as a big pair of lips
if he realy likes you, then he will date you.
if he wants you enough, being single should be the last thing on his mind
2006-11-27 09:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by itsALICE! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah! Awkwardest project ever yet i might want to attend and spot if something went added which include your dad's female friend and your dad. i'm no longer putting forward no longer capture up with which include your dad's female friend's son yet do not attempt to get too a lot into him. wish I helped!
2016-10-07 21:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by grego 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be single because he doesn't have to deal with the responsibilities of a relationship while you're willing to make kissyface with him. What a sweet deal for him.
Or in other words, he's using you for a booty call.
2006-11-27 09:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the guy play around with you. Just move on when it's not worth your time.
2006-11-27 09:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah just keep doing what u been doin'
2006-11-27 09:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's playing you, wake up, please, he sounds like the loser I'm about to dump! you sound like his girlfriend on the side . . .
2006-11-27 09:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋