First, a little background information: my boyfriend is 24, and I am 22. We have been friends for over 4 years, and have been dating exclusively for nine months. I know he'd like to be married at some point, I would like to get married (ideally) within the next 2 years or so.
A few nights ago, he said he felt it was very logical of him to love me (haha, I know, he's a bit silly thinking love is logical). Anyway, he reasoned, "...you're pretty, and smart, and you make me laugh and we fun together, and I know you'd be a good mother."
Now, even though he has been skittish to discuss marriage and the like, I have to wonder why on Earth me being "a good mother" would even have crossed his mind if he weren't starting to consider marrying me a serious possibility.
I'm not expecting a proposal within the next week, but what do you think? Does the "good mother" comment indicate that he is considering marriage within the near future?
Thank you to all who answer!!
2006-11-27 09:20:42 · 7 answers · asked by GeorgiaDawgsGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men aren't the best communicator but they do think alot, and it is very possible that in his mind he is thinking long term, and by saying what he did he wanted you to know how great he thinks you are by letting you know you have the whole package. You go girl!!
2006-11-27 09:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoa, there! Ease up on the talk of marriage!
He just listed a set of his ideals, and being a good mother was on that list. Doesn't mean he's going to propose anytime soon. Doesn't mean that he's NOT going to propose. Just means that you've been short-listed. You've met his requirements, and now he's waiting to figure out what he's going to do about it.
Maybe there is a proposal in the future, and maybe he's thinking about it, but I definately wouldn't rush him on this.
If you really want to know, ask him if he's ever thought about marrying you. Or, take a subtle route, and the next time you're out shopping, say, "Oh, did you see that sales attendant with the red hair? She thought we were married!" and see how he reacts.
Good luck!
2006-11-27 09:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is either speaking plain and any man who wants to marry a woman had better come to the conclusion that she would be a good mother or CPS may be in his future. It may also mean that he sees you as the mother type, not the lover type. But that would be the proper order if he were looking at you as a spouse. Just be sure to change your image on your wedding night from good mother to sexy vixen. Good fortune!
2006-11-27 09:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the thought crossed his mind that you could be a good mother, then he pictured you mothering his children! So, yes I would agree he considers you the one he could see himself settling down with. However, I wouldn't get to excited. He could be ready to propose or he could still be thinking off in the future! I just don't want you to get your hopes up that it will happen soon! But, hey, it sounds like you have a great guy!! Congrats!
2006-11-27 09:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he was thinking of marriage, why didn't he tell you that you'd be a good wife? Maybe he was just thinking that you're responsible and like kids. Or maybe he was trying to convince himself that he should love you because of all your good traits. Who knows. If I were you, I'd wait it out and look for more signs that he's thinking of marriage. One comment like that doesn't mean very much.
2006-11-27 09:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if a guy wants to be seriously involved with a woman (i.e. eventually married) and he wants kids, he will want her to be a good mother.
Consider it a compliment. Doesn't mean he wants to marry you yet, but if he contemplates asking you, he considers that to be a good quality.
2006-11-27 09:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he means he would like to have babys when u are married
2006-11-27 09:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by First L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋