Over a year ago, I had an almost one-night stand with a performer who came to my city. I made out with him and I slept at his hotel. We made out, but there was no sex. (I am glad sex didn't happen!) I really couldn't let it go. I googled him and found his girlfriend's myspace page. I have kept looking her up and they recently got married. She posted all the pictures on her MySpace page.
I feel upset that I put myself in that situation. I am upset that he can go off and marry a wonderful woman and I am left to the side like some piece of garbage. How can I get over something like this? Part of me wants to contact him or his wife and tell her what happened, but that probably wouldn't be constructive. How can I get over this? I want to forget about him and stop looking up his wife's profile.
2006-11-27 09:09:08 · 10 answers · asked by tillcow_64 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunatly sweetie...alot of men are like that. You have to find someone who makes you happy but first you have to let go of him! You can't love anyone else if you are still attached to someone emotionally. I personally wouldn't tell his wife because that is just added drama and if he cheats on her eventually she will find out herself because karma is a biotch! You deserve better than someone who will treat you that and you will get better than that!! 8-)
2006-11-27 09:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by dazed*n*confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now it sounds like you are hanging on to him. You will get closure when you truly feel you have learned the lesson from that experience. It is time to invest your energy into yourself and ask yourself why you did that in the first place. Is there something about yourself that you are struggling with that made you choose to be with him? Could it be that you didn't think about it at the time, or, did not know how it would make you feel until after the experience? When you take the time to think about the answers to those questions, you will start to get some closure. When you meet someone new, you will look back and ask yourself why you wasted so much energy on him, when the energy should have been spent on you. You are in control of you and the choices you make, not his choices. The decisions he makes for himself will one day catch up with him, but you don't have to be the one to decide when that is. It will only cause you more pain and regret. Just focus on yourself, and why you made that decision to be with him and remember it the next time you are faced with that same situation, because that would mean that the problem is with yourself, and you should get to the bottom of it.
I hope that helps.
2006-11-27 09:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by Trevor McKinney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all make bad decisions at some point in life, but you can't live in the past. Each day you wake up is a new day and a new start. Look forward not backwards. Contacting him or her would be very destructive, not to mention almost vindictive. If he was a performer you should have known that he probably has had alot of one night stands in his travels, but now he has found someone to settle down with. Be happy that you didn't have sex with him and leave them both alone to live their life together. If you let things bother you that much from your past, you are going to be a very unhappy person. Chalk it up to experience and learn from it so you won't make the same mistake again. Start today accepting yourself and forgive yourself for past mistakes. You have along life ahead of you....enjoy it.
2006-11-27 09:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, it was over a year ago. It was a terrible mistake but that's all. You are not garbage!
Live a good life in the future, make better choices, and leave this in the past.
2006-11-27 09:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think to yourself "how stupid can he be?" If he was a loyal guy he would have not hooked up with you. Im sure he was with this girl when this happened. Just think of how horrible of a man he was and tell yourself repeatedly " Im over it, Im better then that, and im NOT going to let it ruin me"
2006-11-27 09:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by idontevenknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like trash because you behaved like trash.
FORGET about them. Don't call them and disrupt their lives. Why would you do that? To be a horrible person?
Just chalk it up as one of life's mistakes that you learn from. That is how you grow as a person.
2006-11-27 09:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stop.....STOP!!!! Whats the big deal? Move on...he has. ALso, it was an almost one-night stand so what did you expect to possibly happen. Move on.
2006-11-27 09:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By making ammends, failing that, moving on and hoping and endeavoring never to so do again.
2006-11-27 09:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by vanamont7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laugh about it and move on
2006-11-27 09:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by Fruitful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was a one nighter , let it go
2006-11-27 09:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by sufferingnomad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋