We've been together just over a year. He's really shy, and it's really important to him that he feels totally comfortable before he sleeps with someone. When we first talked about it he said he'd let me know when he felt ready. Recently we've been talking about the future, and it definitely involves us both, I'm def happy and he says he is too. I've had the impression a couple of times that he's been about to bring it up but had backed out at the last minute, or is that just me being hopeful? ;) So how do I help him out without sounding pushy?
2006-11-27 09:07:33 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just go to ur room
locked the door
and push him to her bed
and have a good .... ....
u know what i mean..
2006-11-27 09:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by bäwЄŁ Ļoĕ ® 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't ask this time you just do.
When you're kissing see how far you can push it. I'm not saying force him into it im just saying if you're getting the vibe that he's ready but doesn't know how to say then help him along. Be confident and make sure it feels comfortable for the pair of you.
If it doesn't then hang in there baby, it will one day and when that day comes he won't wanna stop!
Try talking to him about the benefits of a sexual relationship... The closeness etc.
And try and find out what exactly he is worried about.
Take each little thing you do one step at a time. Kissing heavy petting etc. and keep asking him if he's OK with every new thing you do.
Good luck, have fun and ALWAYS practise safe sex....
xxx
2006-11-27 17:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you can do is talk to him about the issue of sex. "Are you ready for it?" You don't have to tell him outright that you are ready, willing and waiting, but just say that the issue has been on your mind and that you were just wondering because you think that the relationship is at that stage that you want to commit to him.
As long as he talks about it, then at least you know where you stand with the issue.
Don't push for sex. If he is shy, then it will have to a serious where is a natural situation, or that you take the first moves, and hope that he follows. But don't jump on him, that will deter him from you.
(I'm supplying this inofrmation on the basis, that I presume that whatever state you are in, you are legal to have sex, and that your partner is the same too!)
2006-11-27 21:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to know him intimately, and that both of you will have fun.
He may be too shy to expose himself to you. Perhaps other boys or another girl humiliated him. He may be scared he may not measure up in bed. Assure him you'll help him all the way, and even if things do not go quite right, you'll understand. They don't always. Don't expect an ecstatic first night.
2006-11-27 21:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have disscussed it alot-it's good to be open in a relationship but on the other hand more talking could make him more self conciuos.go for the jugular don some sexy undies (under your clothes) and seduce him sit on his lap with a low cut top and just reach to get somthing from behind him therefore putting your boobs'accidently' in his face and you can use your imagination for the rest!
2006-11-27 17:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by suz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go with your gut. You know him well, and you sense that he is ready. So seduce him! I promise you, he will not say no to you when you are wearing a skimpy little outfit in a candle lit room. Have fun, I envy you (have not had any for a while)!
2006-11-27 17:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by krisi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you've been making out and things start getting exciting stop, look him directly in the eye and say "are you ready?". Make sure you have condoms readily available if the answer is yes. Good luck! and have fun!
2006-11-27 17:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, that you want to move forward etc. then ask if hes ready, but make it clear that its ok if he isnt. The most important thing is to make him feel comfortable and reassured. Just be patient.
2006-11-27 17:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by trist 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
huh?
a man wants to wait??
thats a new one to me but anyways.
just meet him at the door wearing nothing but your dressing gown and lead him upstairs.
undress and help him and guide him to bit of you body that you want touching.
let it carry on from there!
or tell him your a woman and you have needs so if he doesnt want you to go elsewhere he best start acting like a real man. if neither of these work he might be gay or he might be hiding something and breaking up could be the best way to go. i have never known a man wait that long.
my fella was a virgin when i started seeing him and we waited three months but that was mainly down to me.
2006-11-27 17:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should just ask him what he thinks about taking a step further into ur relationship. see what and how he feels and then u should know how to proceed from there. maybe if u bring it up he'll know that hes not the only one thinking about moving foward
2006-11-27 17:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask him to do so.
If he had no action regarding having sex with you after one year, therefore there could be some restricted reasons which you will not know it till you break up this relation.
If I were you, I would break this up.
2006-11-27 17:12:51 · answer #11 · answered by MarMar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋