I tryed to talk them out of it but knew it was pointless - they had made up their minds. But they asked me to go help them get through it and I did. This has happened like 5 times, some still call me crying because of the guilt, even though it was years ago, which makes me even more against it.
My question is, am I a hypocrate for driving them home and supporting them emotionally afterwards? I love them, but hate what they did.
2006-11-27 08:58:10 · 11 answers · asked by Lesley C 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you were a hypocrite you would be out getting abortions but then preaching not to get them. You clearly don't do that. I feel what you are doing is noble and very kind.
A friend doesn't just stop being a friend because of something the two don't agree on. While you are adamant about your pro-life ways I'm sure she is adamant on her pro-choice ways--obviously.
Abortion is not black and white. To be put into a category does not make you have to fit into all the stereotype. For example although I am pro-choice I also believe abortion is wrong. Based on the lack of facts I am pro-choice. There are no facts to support my beliefs or anyone else whether they believe life begins at conception or birth. Most people have it in their minds all pro-choice people spit out how liberating abortions are but that's not the case with me. I would have the same talk to my friends as you probably do with yours. I've worked endless hours at a pregnancy crisis center convincing these poor misguided woman not to get abortions--but I'm still pro-choice.
People like to generalize. In that same aspect people like to be part of a group--that normally adheres to that stereotype/generalization. Just like Democrats and Republics. When we generalize one belief for all we are in for a rude awakening. A group of millions cannot have the same idea. A group of 10--while agreeing on the most pivotal points of an argument will not agree 100%.
I think it’s important to be there for your friend. I always tell myself (as a Christian)--Jesus was an understanding man. He was there to help and guide people--even at the worst of times. “What would Jesus do?” always comes to mind with me--he most certainly would support abortion BUT he would support someone who is hurt. He would help a person in need of guidance. Remember Cain and Able? Even though Cain killed his brother--God let him live. Why? Not because what Cain did was right, but because our God is loving.
This is my take on the whole situation. I don’t know if you are religious or will even understand what I’m saying but I gave it a shot. Best of Luck. Trust your gut--I think you know you aren’t a hypocrite and you are doing the right thing but you just needed someone to let you know that you are!
2006-11-27 15:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand the position you're coming from and your concern. yet regrettably she is going to might want to make the alternative. So her father knows that she is pregnant. Sound extraordinary he would pick her to have an abortion till there is extra to this tale you do not study. If she has an abortion it really is a decision she might want to stay with for something else of her life. maximum women or females who've abortion carry the emotional scars of having the abortion for something else of their lives. human beings imagine an abortion is the answer to their complications purely later to experience sorry about their determination later. you'll purely damage your friendship or perhaps free her as a pal if you're actually not careful. sure she must have idea about what she became doing previously she were given pregnant. If she became responsible adequate to have sex then she might want to take on the duty of her toddler and carry it to time period then provide it up for adoption. yet contained in the right it really is as a lot as her if she has an abortion or no longer. you've informed her the way you experience and how you both felt at one time.
2016-11-29 20:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a tough decision to make, and you chose to be a good friend. The only way I see this as being hypocritical, is if you were the one getting the abortion. I'm sure you are the kind of person that anyone would love to call friend. You put your feelings aside long enough to hold her hand, and even if you don't think what she did was great, what you did was a beautiful thing. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise!
2006-11-27 09:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it shows that you put the emotional needs of your friends and family over your own beliefs. I admire you for putting your relationships over your personal thoughts. I think you are a much better person for being so supportive to your friends than someone who would say "I don't like abortion so I'm not going to help you regardless of my relationship with you." I think Jesus would do the same. He said you can "hate the sin but love the sinner." Not that I personally think abortion is a sin, but I respect your thoughts in thinking so and admire your commitment and compassion towards your friends and family who you support and care about. You're not a bypocite whatsoever, you are a good person who cares about people as individuals.
2006-11-27 09:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's hypocritical. I think it's being a good friend. Loving someone means caring enough to support them in a decision even if you don't agree with it. The fact that you tried to talk to them, the didn't listen, and you still went through the experience with them means you are a good person.
They're lucky to have you!
2006-11-27 09:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ali D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO It's not hypocritical being there for your family and friends through hard times even though you don't agree with it.
It WOULD be hypocritical if you nagged them about it and then went and did it yourself.
Don't feel bad. Different people have different opinions about this but it's never wrong to support family.
2006-11-27 09:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I, too, am pro-life, but I can sympathize with what you did. You're just saying "I'm against what you're doing, but I love you and want you to be OK". Don't listen to anyone who says your hypocritical. You were just being there for a friend in their time of need. Nothing wrong with that no matter WHAT you were supporting them through...
2006-11-27 09:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. I don't believe so. you tried your best to talk them out of it. It's still important for you to show your love to your family and friends though supporting them even when they make mistakes. It's important that you make it known that you disagree with their choice but that you love them anyway and will help them as best you can. I would definately suggest going to Christian counseling with your friends and family who need help dealing with their past actions.
2006-11-27 09:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by frodobaggins115 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a good friend ranks higher than protesting abortion in my book. There's only so much you can do, so you do it.
2006-11-27 09:02:36 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You supported the action - therefore you supported the procedure. You assisted. Shame on you.
2006-11-27 09:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sharebear99 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋