My 15 month old started throwing fits....?

Question

she throws a fit whenver she dosen't get her way or what she wants.....I know this is normal and all kids do it....I am just trying to figure out ways to deal with this....Should I ignore them??? or time outs??? I just want to try and break her of this before she's older and it gets really bad any suggestions please?

Answer 1

Dont ignore the fits or give her what she wants. First try to compromise with her by saying something like "We can get it only if........" then say something reasonable. If that doesnt work then try to ignore it. If you are one of those : I dont spank children people, then try time out or let her cry until she falls asleep. If it gets really bad then bring her to Dr.Phil. Lol.............the best of luck!!!

Answer 2

One theory is to completely ignore the behavior - do not give them what they want, do not even talk to them or give them any attention until the fit is over by 30 minutes, basically let the child scream and kick and in the end they get absolutely nothing for their work.

Theory two is a backup plan - spank the bottom until they figure out its a bad idea to have a fit.

Save theory two for later after theory one has proven not to work.

Good luck and remember you did the same thing when you were 15 months old.

Answer 3

Yes, ignore it. The fits are you daughters attempt to acheive a desired attention/reaction. If the attention is not one you wish her to have, ignore her. The first couple of times the fits sessions are going to be very long. You have to show will power and perseverence. You may feel like a bad parent, but what you are doing is better in the long run. You will establish better control of your daughter with less negative behaviors.

Answer 4

whatever you do DO NOT react ! I started my son in time out earlier and its progressed to the corner because he has temper tantrums really bad. Its just the age. My son is 22 months now and its bad. It will be like this until they are about 4 and then starts a whole new process for us lol. Also try taking things away that she really likes a toy or show that she watches a lot. It worked for my son.

Answer 5

My son is about the same age....and timeouts seem to work well.....What I do is ASK him to stop....kids that age are not stupid...the know what the words stop and no mean...if he does not he gets put into his room and I let him just throw a fit and ignore him 5-10 min......it only took about 2 times of this for him to realize that trowing a fit does not get him what he wants....no I just have to say "do you want time out" and he knows that he needs to stop because he is not getting whatever he is trowing a fit about....

Answer 6

Oh, yeah. My daughter did the same thing! I mean, I've heard about the terrible twos but it never occured to me that that stage could start when they're ONE, right?! :D First, you should try to ignore her. Let her see that when she throws fits, it doesn't get her her way. If it continues, you could try the timeouts. Eventually, though, she'll grow out of it! Good luck and hang in there!

Answer 7

Just ignore it! I'm going nuts going through the same thing with my son right now (also about 15 months). Other than ignoring it, I try diverting his attention towards something else. My favorite is to just start counting calmly to ten over and over again. He usually stops by the 5th or 6th time I do it, and he's learning to count at the same time!

Answer 8

At that age time outs are an eternity of ununderstood torture (atleast from the prespective of the child),.. they likely won't remember why they are there rather quickly and just think your being mean to them.

The in the corner thing won't work right. It's starting to be caught on that doing this to a child is only damageing to their devolopement and some people take this so far it's abusive.

What you want to do it drop attention from them because they are not actting like a civilized person. Human interaction should be what they want and their parents are the center of the universe,.. you lose that and things crumble.

If you want to give them things similar to time outs, they should be in a place without things to play with in isolation,.. BUT do not make them sit or stand the whole time at their age. Remind them every minute that you are waiting for them to act like a normal person and communicate with you. You may also want to get a crib involved if they are still useing one. Whenever they act up put them to bed saying it is because they are actting like they are tired and don't want to do anything at all,.. includeing play. Do keep one soft toy or comfort blanket they can talk to,.. some times this helps them figure out when everything went wrong... haveing something non-threatening that can not physically give into their demands but will listen and interact with them.

Some times it is discovered there are allergies or fatigue or enviornment that is tireing out the child and this is how they lose communication to being tired and not feeling well. It may not just be a " Not getting their way" thing but also not being able to communicate.

The next time you spend time with them after this explain proper communication when you want something " May I have..." or " May I please..." or " I would like..." if you may not be able to handle " May I", " Thank You" and "Please" normally with a busy life,.. *can't remember what other things she was going to say in better detail so types...* explain more things to them and approperate behavior.

My mom noticed something but no doctor really took the time to give her details when they'd notice I would have this. When I was outside without shade I would get cranky fast,.. well some times I was red... it was from Sun Poisoning starting to get to me. When you skin is itchy and on fire you get figety and clumsy and don't feel well. I had Sun Poisoning some times and one of my doctors noticed and said I had Sun Poisoning but never explained it to her. (I some times get Sun Poisoning or a Sun Burn just by being in a Car).

Some childern/people have allergic reactions to certain things that include being hyper, euphoric, dehydrated,... etc. So with these certain allergens in their system they do not act appropriate (regardless of age and activity) they may also bloat or turn red. These kinds tend to be adictive to people that are allergic to them. They also tend to be food colors or used to help color foods. I know a couple... Caramel coloring (like in Pepsi and Coke), about 3 of the Red Dye (food color, they are commonly found in red and colored foods/drinks), a yellow, and a couple blues (some times they decide that one or two blues also cause cancer so they yank them and try to change them some how and they return).

Answer 9

Try time outs. My daughter is the same way. It's a slow process. But yeah, you want to deal with it as quickly as possible. Time outs and if its really bad, put her to bed until she calms down.Its so hard for kids that age, because they know what they want, but they don't know how to get it out. So understand too, that they're really frustrated at their ability or lack their of to communicate properly.

Answer 10

DISTRACT. that works best for my daughter , just distract her mind with anything whenever she makes a fuss for something pick her up in your arms load her with lots of hugs and kisses run outside show her birds, bring her into a different room show her, her won reflection or how she looks when she's crying in the mirror show her the difference how beautiful she looks when she's smiling put anything edible on her hands saying its an eating tattoo and she can eat it when she's good (you can even put Hershey syrup's drop), Please no time out or anything it's just a phase we all go through but if you can distract her she'll forget about the thing and once she grows she will know a way to distract herself so you won't feel bad about saying NO to her for anything