Should I be scared to have sex with my my b-f for only 1 month. I don't want to have sex with him now I want to wait til later on in our relationship but, I mean I want to but I a scared. Do I have anything to be scared of. Why not??
2006-11-27 08:55:33 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't sleep with him yet. 1 month isn't long enough to be able to judge what his true motives are. Make him sweat a bit longer. If he likes you, he'll wait. If he waits, you know he's with you because he likes you, not just because he wants to get it on.
2006-11-27 08:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have anything to be scared about except pregnancy, an std, or having regrets later because you did not wait. You said so yourself that you are not ready, so stick to this decision, one month of dating is not a long time, you are still in the getting to know one another phase and you should wait until you feel comfortable enough to even talk about sex with your partner.
2006-11-27 09:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by livlovelaugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I am a guy, but this is the best advice i can give you. Wait. If he is in a hurry, tell him to do the knuckle shuffle on hi pump while your relationship ripens. If there is a reason you don't want to have sex right off the bat, then you have your own reasons. Are there reasons not too? Yeah, 1 out of every 3 people in the world have a STD. So be smart and good to yourself. If he puts the pressure on you, dump him and go find a man.
2006-11-27 08:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not ready to have sex if your scared. Sex is a very intimate thing. You shouldn't have it unless you are sure your ready. You aren't even really scared of the act itself, but your more afraid of the emotional reprocutions and therefore your not ready. Wait and see how the relationship goes you'll know when the time is right and it might not ever be right with this person.
2006-11-27 08:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by espressoaddict22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize you said female only, but as a male I have to say if you have sex with him once he will always expect you to have sex with him. If you want to wait until you feel comfortable, please do. Males are very focused on sex, sex, sex. I know because it is a proven fact that sex crosses the male mind every 3.2 seconds. Plus if you have sex with him and he isn't mature about sex yet, he will only be with you until you get boring to him. After that he will just want to have sex with a new girl. For some reason a lot of guys can only have sex with the same girl until they feel like the p*ssy they have is old because they are used to the way it feels, shaped, e.t.c. Most guys are dogs and I hate too say that because I am a guy. Save yourself, if you aren't comfortable yet that is a sign. Good luck. Later....L.G.
2006-11-27 09:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by michael a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is nothing to be scared of. But if i were you Id wait, your uneasy about it and your scared , Dont force yourself into something you know you dont want to, and if he forces you,ask yourself "does he really like me....i mean REALLY? " You havent been dating for a while and i dont think youve reached that part in your relationship yet, My suggestion is, wait. Its not a scary thing, its just and emotional thing, if youre ready for emotional attatchments and commitments, or something of the sort, then go for it. But id strongly consider waiting a couple more months. See how long he lasts without sex.
2006-11-27 09:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by idontevenknow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking, and if you are scared, then you are not ready to have sex. Sex is a big deal, its more then just SEX. Wait until you know for sure that you are ready, and when you don't need to ask a bunch of strangers about your personal decisions. That is for your to decide, and if you can't decide for yourself, you are not ready. Don't forget that whenever you decide that you are ready and are comfortable, use protection. Make sure you get yourself on a birth control method, and use condoms. Be safe. And make smart decisions.
Take care.
2006-11-27 09:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey babe, defnitely wait. You've only been dating him for ONE MONTH! That's no time at all, and a bad time to give that to him. Have fun with eachother and get to know him before you do that. Who knows, maybe 3 months from now you'll find that you don't like him so much. You should make him wait and let him prove himself. A guy who gets what they want that soon isn't going to have anything to fight for. BE SCARED AND WAIT!!!
2006-11-27 09:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait till you feel comfortable with him and don't let him put pressure on you. You have already second guessed yourself by stating that you dont want to but then go on to say you are scared. You should take it one day at a time. Then after all that you really ahve nothing to be scared of!!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 09:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON"T DO IT, WAIT. You will wish you had, enjoy being young and carefree, everything changes once you have sex. Are you ready for that to happen? Don't allow pressure, and most likely you won't end up with this guy, if you do than he will know that you are worth waiting for, but that won't come after only a month.
2006-11-27 08:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by buxomkity 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush something like that take your time to get to know each other. I've rushed that before and it always turned out as us breaking up. Plus you guys just started dating its too early for sex. If he is rushing you then you probably don't want to be with him anyways cause hes only interested in one thing and its not you. But if you do decide to have sex make sure that he is clean of STDs and AIDS/HIV (and you too if you've had sex before). But no one can really tell you when (and who) is the right time and person only you. If you do it for his benefit then you could end up resenting him. Make sure he knows NO means NO. That's if you don't want to. Good luck.
2006-11-27 09:12:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋