Is this really cheating?

Question

I have M.P.D. (Multiple Personality Disorder). I've learned to control it though mental discipline and a compromise with my other personalities. But I have no control over there wills. While they are in control I can't really stop them from doing what they want. We can all work together though. No one can even tell unless I tell them that's how I am. I started dating an awesome girl who I care about a lot. The bad part: she is 16 and I'm 18. I don't mind waiting 2 years in fact I just think of that as 2 years for us to get to know each other better. The problem: since I've been dating her one of my personalities as had sex with something he likes twice. I had no real involvement but he did this with our body.... my body. I've been thinking about this a lot. I didn't don anything but did I really cheat even though I wasn't the was who did it, it was just my body?

Something else that should be noted is the girl he was with knows how we are and not only accepts it. She's friends with all of us but is in love with one she slept with. He loves you too. Though she doesn't want to be with him because its my body. None of us understand it our selves. For those of you who don't want to believe I'm not it under control. You should know I haven't hurt anyone or myself. I don't have any inner torment we all work together quit well.

I've notice some consistent questions that I will answer right now. First and for most I'm not making this stuff up. I've been dealing with this illness for 10 years. I've been to therapy for most of it (8 year to be more precise). Therapy (at lest for me) was nothing more then a temporary crutch. This hasn't and isn't going away. Next off yes my girlfriend knows about my illness just not its total extent. She understands that I can't help the way I am. The biggest question and this ones making me mad. NO!!!!!! I'm not using this as an excuse to cheat. I'm going to say this as clearly as possible. I DON'T WANT TO CHEAT. I wouldn't do that to her. I know she deserves better then me. About how I know know what happens is I can accuse the memory from any of my other personalities. Think like a computer witch is what the brain is like anyway. Lastly and lest important yes its a typo. Its suppose to be "someone" not "something". ok

Oh and one more thing I'm not asking for anyone's "help". Like I said I've been dealing with this for 10 years more then half my life. I've got it thank. I'm just asking for some opinions. Nothing more. For those of you who have given me an open minded opinion and not criticize me thank you I very much appreciate that.

Answer 1

what did you have sex with a dog, dude you are a freak, how did you know you ahd sex with her did you other persona tell you? did u wake up with sticky pants, was your dogs red rocket in your mouth? what is that taste?

Answer 2

Actually I would still call this cheating.

That is like blaming your car accident on a MPD. "Officer I wasn't driving it was my other personality." The cop will say you shouldn't drive then.

If you have knowledge that something bad could happen, it is your job to either keep it from happening or telling the people who will be hurt that it could happen.

Most people with that serious a mental illness are encouraged not to date (especially younger people since they can't handle it).

No matter what you hear on TV there is no free pass to wrong doing because you are mentally ill. They still go to jail (just a psych jail) when they do something even if they were someone else at the time. You should be seeing a doctor if you can't control your body.

Answer 3

Well I dont want to be rude, but yes you cheated. You still allowed your body to do something with someone else. If you really care for her no matter which personality you are you wouldnt have done that. When you cheat on somebody it's because that person you are with makes you feel good. If you dont want it to happen again they I would suggest to stay away from that person if one of your personalities is attracted to him/her.

Answer 4

Ummm...Well I Guess Not Since You Have M.P.D. I Don't Think You Could Of Stopped Yourself Or Whoever.

Answer 5

It makes sense, in a complicated way.

Your true personality, of course, isn't like that, but the other personality(s), like it.

I really don't think it's cheating at all, it was not yourself, it was something else compelling you to do that.

So it wasn't exactly your fault that you gravitated toward that!

If you tell her, I'm sure she will understand!

Good Luck.
:)

Maddi

Answer 6

If you can't control the others, how do you know what happened? Yeah, it's pretty much cheating. What is the something the other personality got hold of? I hope you meant someone.

Answer 7

My grandma also had m.p.d. No it isn't considered cheating as long as your dominant personality has made your lover aware of the fact that you have m.p.d. and knows that these sorts of situations are possible.

Answer 8

I have a feeling this is a joke but if you really do have M.P.D., in my opinion, you did not cheat because YOU had no control over what you did.

Answer 9

That's a tough one,but I think If I were your girlfriend I would feel like you cheated even though it was your other personality.

Answer 10

Have you spoken with a psychologist? Does your girlfriend know about your disorder? Does she know this is possible, and that it has happened? I think you two need to have a Talk.