Three reasons as to why family members may not like a newcomer to the family
2006-11-27 08:43:39 · 9 answers · asked by Alen S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Jealousy, change, insecurity.
2006-11-27 08:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By newcomer, I assume you have married into a family situation. What kind of efforts have you made to become a new member of the family. It is as much up to you to make an effort as it is the family. I had to prove myself to my mother-in-law. She had five son's, no daughter's and when she died at the age of 95, she was still thinking that no woman was good enough for her son's. I did everything I could do for her so I was the one who was slightly ok, but still not good enough. Time will tell. I really can't say what their reasons are. It's something you have to live with to keep peace.
2006-11-27 16:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Someone who si new to a family doesn't have their role yet. There are peacekeepers, pot stirers, quiet ones, loud ones, friendly and aloof people for every family. Give your family time to learn his/her personality and the role will naturally present itself.
2, New family members means a new set of family. There are little clusters of family if you've looked at the way a family tree is broken down it will make more since. There is now the possibiltiy that the family will have another little family to nurture if the couple has kids.
3. Just uncertainty. In my family my cousins new wife barely spends time with any of us. TO the point where we think she doesn't really like us and that makes it really uncomfortable.
2006-11-27 16:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by espressoaddict22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cultural/religious issues.
Physical appearance ( family might be conservative and newcomer is loud or a gansta-looking type or visa-versa)
Overprotective/trust issues (family attitude might be " he's not good enough for our child"...).
2006-11-27 16:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by jesshispet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they may see a newcomer as anintruder, or he or she may not be of the same socialstatus, or he orshe may not be rich enough.
2006-11-27 17:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may feel uncomfortable and feel awkward to have strangers to the home. Maybe the family members doesn't know the person very well and have no feelings. hahaha.
2006-11-27 16:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. They don't like their approach 2. They may be stepping on someones toes. 3. They may want to see the person with someone else.
2006-11-27 16:50:05 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine919273 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. fear of change
2. mistrust of "outsiders" in general
3. fear of becoming less important once newcomer is "in"
2006-11-27 16:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
past experience, trust, they feel the person isn't right for you
2006-11-27 17:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋