My fiancee & I r both getting married for the 2nd time. I am Cath and he is Luth. My parents are insisting on an annulment for him. I dont think that he should have to but my dad told him that if he wanted to marry me that is what he had to do. Can anyone tell me if there is a way around the dang annulment???
2006-11-27 08:33:58 · 13 answers · asked by Renae F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am divorced and have already received my annulement. My fiancee is divorced and is Lutheran. We are getting married in the Lutheran church but for me to remain an active Cath. he needs to get the annulment and we need a dispensation. This question has nothing to do with my dad asking him to do it. I just want to know if anyone knows a way around it. Otherwise I am looking at at least a year before we can get married and that doesn't allow for much planning.
2006-11-28 06:58:52 · update #1
I am divorced and have already received my annulement. My fiancee is divorced and is Lutheran. We are getting married in the Lutheran church but for me to remain an active Cath. he needs to get the annulment and we need a dispensation. This question has nothing to do with my dad asking him to do it. I just want to know if anyone knows a way around it. Otherwise I am looking at at least a year before we can get married and that doesn't allow for much planning.
2006-11-28 06:59:00 · update #2
An annulment isn't a big deal. I'm Catholic, though, and don't know how, or even if, annulments are handed out in the Lutheran church...
I'm sure your parents just want the best for you.
2006-11-28 03:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not up to your parents. Let's focus on what you want. Are you Catholic by choice or is it because it's what your parents want? If you really aren't a practicing Catholic, you can get married outside of the Catholic church.
If you are a practicing Catholic, I am sorry to say that the annulment is not only mandatory for your fiancee, but for you as well, if you wish to be married with the church's blessing. Without the blessing, you cannot take communion at mass and the church politics can get cold towards you.
2006-11-27 09:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are your parents involved in this? Is the man divorced or widowed? If so what does he need to get an annulment for? Who's demand is this? Sounds like a long drawn out thing that is gonna make a bunch of money for some lucky lawyer. Tell your parents to butt out. I bet they had something to do with the ending of your first marriage. Try it without them this time around. You don't need no stinking annulment so tell the folks to zip it up.
2006-11-27 08:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see what your dad wants to happen having any effect on what actually happens. Are your folks wanting you to have the whole Catholic Mass/priest blessing your marriage thing? If so, then I think (I'm not Catholic, but have many friends/family who are) he would have to get an annulment. Talk to your dad, find out what he's thinking here. If he's still being unreasonable, then remind him you're an adult, and this is your wedding, not his--do this politely, of course! Best ofluck to you!
2006-11-27 09:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about? Is he not divorced? If he is - then you two can get married, your parents really should butt out of this. If he's not divorced, then you have a bigger problem to address. You can check your state laws, but as far as I know an "annulment" is just basically a quicker divorce if certain conditions are met. Tell your parents to MTOB, gently but firmly.
2006-11-27 08:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only catholics are required to have an anullment before marrying again in a Catholic church.
You can get married elsewhere, and you won't have to bother about this mess. Lutherans are not required to have an anullment, a simple divorce decree will suffice.
Good luck
2006-11-27 09:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just to take a different angle here - it really is none of your fathers business- BUT if you have BOTH been married previously then WHY is your father insisting on an annulment jsut for your partner?/ seems a bit one-eyed to me.
also if you are an adult - your father has absolutley no say as to who you can marry-
YOU it would seem need to grow up.
2006-11-27 14:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say where you are getting married. Did you have a divorce yourself, or did your husband pass away? If you are getting married in a Catholic church, you should talk with the priest there.
2006-11-27 11:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are old enough to marry, and for the second time to boot then I do not think it is any place for your dad to ask this of the groom to be. Inform your father that you are an adult now and as such will make important decisions like this independently.
2006-11-27 08:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do your parents desires have to do with it? A marriage is a bond between two people, not two people and thier parents. You need to do what the two of you think is best and move on with your life together.
2006-11-27 08:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋