I just got out of a horrible 2 year relationship with my ex who i had a very high sexual relationship with. Sex was a big part of our relationship and I was just with her last week and now shes dating a new guy and completely shut me off her life. Im trying to move on despite the fact that it kills me. Ill be fine then i wont be. Thats how my days go. I cant help the fact of imagining her having sex with someone else and it "kills" me. I drive myself insane. Im thinking about seeing a therapist or getting on meds cuz i think im depressed and its affecting my school especially because I am pre-med. Please help. My girlfriend is attractive and she is dating an older guy who i think she finds more attractive than me. If you are familiar with histrionic personality disorder, she has this. But I just need advice on what the heck I should do to get these horrible thoughts out of my head. Im willing to do anything because I need to get back on track...HELP!
2006-11-27 08:18:28 · 10 answers · asked by Dwaine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude! This is me 20 years ago!! I had to recognize the relationship for what it was... "High Maintenance", and going nowhere. The relationship was absolutely incredible while it was there, and tragic when it ended. So I did what most everyone else does... find a sympathetic shoulder (my mom), buy cheap wine in the box, and drink. That was probably phase 1 for me, and lasted maybe a month. Then I moved on to phase 2, if you will... (no, I didn't start dating right away). Phase 2 was realizing drinking and wining in front of my mom (bless her heart) was lame, so I moved on to drink and wine in front of my buddies. This got old fast for them (about less than a week). Eventually, I started noticing this cute girl at work noticing me so I asked her out. She turned me down explaining she already had a boy friend, but it was cool she was noticing me. But with time I got over my pain. As I look back now, 20 years later, I realize there are two types of girls you get in relationships with, short term and long term. The challange in life, Grasshopper, is to not confuse the two. Appreciate each for what it is, and don't get too hung up on the natural conclusion of each. There are no real shortcuts to ease the pain. This is how "experience and wisdom" happens.
2006-11-27 08:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Regular Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
had you met someone more attractive & wud have happened to have sex with her, would you have been more comfortable?
the problem is your ego isn't letting you live!
See, she was never worth you & you should be thankful that she's out of your life! Sooner or later she'll realise it & will feel guilty tooo but the person in question is YOU! You have to let it go, forgive n forget her!!!!
Whatever happened happened for something good!!
Go to a therapist for sure, but remember eventually its only you n you who can get of it.. therapist willl listen to you & to the max will give u afew medicines, but they can't do a miracle so that you are fine!
Its you who has to do something about it!
face your thoughts!! Yes she cheated you and left you for someone else, but who's making you suffer now? YOU!
She benefitted her, then y are you harming yourself???
You want to be a doc right, then YOu have to be mentally strong!! Feel great about yourself that you Forgot n forgave her.
Do acts which will make you rise much above than these silly, creepy acts. Best way to get out of it is to FORGET, FORGIVE & DOING SOMETHING FOR yourself....
read
ACTS of faith... I've learnt this from there only...
by the way I'm a doc too & I've gone through this once!
2006-11-27 08:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers you because you are not over her yet and she is over you. I would say go and find a girl and have some hot steamy sex with her. If she is already with some one after a week then you are probably thinking that she cheated on you. Sorry but you are probably right. Nothing is wrong with you, you just need someone to help you get over it.
2016-05-23 14:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out and find another girl college boy, and the next girl you get, try to make it more than a sexual relationship, eventually girls grow up quicker than guys and want more out of a relationship than just sex
2006-11-27 08:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one who controls where your mind goes. Keeping your mind occupied on other things will help. Take up bowling with the guys, work out at the health club. Maybe you'll meet somone. Don't lock yourself up by yourself
2006-11-27 08:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by marjsmith7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's out enjoying sex with another guy why would you want her? Move on.
2006-11-27 08:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to get over an ex is to get on top of another chick. LOL
2006-11-27 08:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should speak to a therapist or try finding a new girlfriend.
2006-11-27 08:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you considered, finding your self a lady friend, and focus your passions on her?
2006-11-27 08:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by duster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop thinking about it and def stop asking questions about it
2006-11-27 08:22:01 · answer #10 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋