I'm fatter than I'd like to be. My fiance' says he loves LOVES my body. I used to be 25lbs lighter and I loved my body then, so did he. I've always been a thick girl, and proud of it. I like my big butt lol... It's just that I've crossed the line from from sexy and thick, to fat.
I care what he thinks above anyone else, I don't give a damn about what other people think, I just want to be happy with my self and he makes it hard. I'm not sure what he thinks for real, maybe he thinks he would be a bad guy to tell me that I'm fat, or maybe he thinks it would be 'admiting I'm fat'' if he supported my weight loss, I'm not sure what to say to him.
2006-11-27 08:17:07 · 8 answers · asked by ABK_SCRUB 2 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
There have been some great answers on this question already.
the only thing i feel i should add is that you said "he makes it hard (to be happy with yourself)". he probably loves you: fat, skinny, thick, armless or toothless wouldn't matter.
I think he'll love the body you are in no matter what. YOU have to love your body and he'll love you for loving your body too.
If you are getting the hint that he is not happy about your added weight but doesn't want to say anything, then decide what YOU want to do about your body and tell him that either you are going to keep it or add another 50lbs. See what his reaction is.
2006-11-27 08:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by krillin5959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he does I think you should trust him. And if you don't then maybe he is not right for you. It really does not matter on how much you weigh. Girls have told me that they weigh 150 and do not look like it at all. It's all about toning. Whether you have muscle or fat. If you are super uncomfortable, why not take up a sport with your fiance'? Tennis, Racket ball, Basket ball, Softball, Swimming, running, walking, jogging, anything to keep you active. That way he will get that you are trying to lose weight. That way you can just let your actions speak. He sounds like a keeper so make sure that you do not let a silly fight get in the way. I am rooting for you!
2006-11-27 08:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am overweight too and my husband says he loves me and loves my body. I am more worried about it than he is.
I have found that when men say something, they mean it. If he didn't like you and didn't find you attractive, he might show it by pulling away from you romantically (I have experienced this too). You need to ask yourself "Do I want my fiance to tell me I am unattractive so that I will have the motivation to lose the weight that I want to lose?" If the answer is any where near yes or maybe, then talk to your fiance and tell him that you want to lose weight and that he can do certain things to support you and then tell him all the things he can do to support you.
He probably really loves you for who you are.
2006-11-27 08:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will never admit that he thinks you are fat, nor does he need to. you know what you want and what is comfortable. get your confidence back! be that girl u used to be..u can do it. u are the only person that u can depend on to be comfortable in your own skin. u make the decision to overeat or indulge. so..make the decision to not overeat. just tell him u want to tone up instead of saying i need to lose weight cuz i think i'm fat. exercise should be a part of your life anyhoo! give yourself a realistic weight loss goal: instead of saying 25lbs, start with 5lbs.
2006-11-27 08:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by REALLY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend you have to love your body before any one else does, you mention you were 25pounds lighter, just push yourself away from the table and start walking three times a week. Just put your mind to it and do it i use to weight 260pounds now i am down to 140pounds. i just watch what i ate and start doing a lot of walking and i kept at it you can do it . I'm sure of it .
2006-11-27 08:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by Earl H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your fiancé thinks sounds irrelevant in this scenario - YOU sound unhappy with things as they are. Either lose the weight for yourself and your own benefit, or take him at his word and forget it.
2006-11-27 08:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl thick is sexy
2006-11-27 08:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that as his fiance you would like an honest answer...tell him it will make you feel better if you can be honest.
2006-11-27 08:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by i have no id 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋