How do I forget?

Question

I dated someone for 3 years. He was the love of my life and I would have done anything for him. A year and half ago he decided he didnt love me anymore and wanted to experience other things. I have been strong and left him completely alone, but my heart hasnt healed and I still miss him every day. I dont want to be with anyone else. I dont want to live this way. What should I do?

Answer 1

It sounds pretty painful for you.

If you are still healing and don't want to be with anyone I commend you because you are sensible, even in your pain.

You have been living without him for some time already and you have managed. Maybe you aren't feeling great but you are still trying to get on with living.

It may help you to develop new interests. Cry, vent your feelings and wake up tomorrow.

We love in so many ways and although he was the love of your life and may always remain so you do have the capacity to love again. Not expecting to replace the feeling you have for him but to embrace your ability to offer the best of your heart to someone who needs your love.

Stay strong, you are.

Answer 2

Jennifer, I think you know that he is gone. You need to go out and spend a day pampering yourself. Go to the mall and buy a new outfit. Get your nails done. Get a massage. Go out with some of your friends. Have a good time. Meet some new people, maybe a guy friend! He has been gone for half the amount of time you were together, in another year and a half you don't want to be saying "... 3 years ago he decided .... ". Go have some fun, live for yourself not a guy that is long gone. You deserve better for yourself.

Answer 3

Coming from experience, you need to move on with your life. It is very very difficult, but if you don't and you wait around for this guy to realize he does love you, then you may be waiting forever.

I don't think your heart will ever heal completely, but it will grow to where it doesn't hurt as bad anymore. Once you take that first step to moving on, it will be much easier each and every time. Good luck!

Answer 4

Jennifer, I have to say that I've gone through something very similar... The best answer I can give you is... If he's decided that it's time for him to move on, then allow that to happen, both physically and mentally. You can't go into disrespecting yourself or your emotions by allowing someone to hurt you just by thinking of them. He let you go. You just have to except that and move on. As we (women) hear that from time to time we tend to ignore the advise that we recieve from parents, friends and ourselves. You know that you should move on, but until your feeling are hurt enough to where you really know it's time to go, no advise that anyone gives you is going to help. You will feel the way you feel. And you will learn in due time. Good Luck and dont waste a lot of time. Life is short.

Answer 5

We people are usually in love with the idea of Being in Love most of the times! Think of this..
To him you weren't as important as 'experiencing other things" was.. even if he comes back & doesn't treat yopu welll would you like staying with him?
Missing anything which you had for 1.5 years is completely natural & obvious, but that shouldn't let you fall prey to negative thoughts, You actually miss those lovely times, not him! Try to tell yourself that those times were shortlived they were destined to go now think of future.
You never know you may find someone who deserves your love very soon!!!
Do something for yourself..
Past is gone let Present be a "present" for you and your near n dears ones!!
I've been through your phase once, now I'm happpily married & I thank god that I had to seperate from my X bf so that I could meet my husband! he's just so good!!

Answer 6

Okay u need to get a grip and get over it.
I went through the same thing, and believe me he aint thinking about u.
MOVE ON, seriously because your only making yourself sick and burning up inside.
your not going to be able to find someone who loves u for you unless u forget about him.
Im not saying its not gonna be hard because it is, but trust me time is a maojr healer.
What would u rather him b with u and cheat on you and not have feelings for u.
its good that he told u because now u can realize who he was and is and u can concentrate on yourself.
Because u deserve much more then what he had to offer.
there are plenty of fish in the sea for you to be loved back the way a girl should.

Remeber that hes probably found someone kse so u need to do the same.
And when u eventually do, they will be perfect and u will be thinking to yourself, what was my ex's name again!!!!!!1

Answer 7

Trust me, in true love, you must love the person and he must love you back as much as you love him. Since, your boyfriend doesn't love you as much, it should be clear that he isn't your soul mate and you should leave him and search for another guy. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you'll find yours soon enough. However, if you are that desperate, then just tell him your true feelings. If he still rejects you after that, then just leave him. Your heart will eventually heal. Human beings have a tendancy to adapt and you will to.

Answer 8

Life is a funny thing. Dating is an emotional roller coaster. Ask yourself, Would you rather he leave and do his thing or would you rather him stay and dogg you out with lies and maybe subject you to STD'S I didn't think that's what you wanted. Know this what is for you is for you. This man was not for you. The man upstairs has someone else for you. You just haven't met him yet. So stay strong DO YOU BOO!

Answer 9

i am the same why i dated him for 3 months then its over all u do is just try to thinki of another guy u my just think is cute and make a list of everything that makes u mad and not like about him and then keep it with u and keep reading it when u start to thinj of him and keep urself busy with things that u like doing and do things for urself............ without a man by ur side and make urself feel good and hang oput with some friends that can put u up!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

we all go through that.trust me, the first love is always the one who you think fits you most till you find somebody else. just be you again. dont go looking for anybody, just go out sometimes with your friends or whoever and have fun. let it come to you dont go looking for it.