A guy that I was dating casually/lover for more than a year just recently moved away for job reasons. We're still keeping in touch, although not as much as we were in person of course. We never really talked about our problems together but I felt that it should be done if we were to get serious. He was starting to open up right before he left, but I feel that there is unfinished business on both of are parts. In a recent email, I told him that I had overcome my problem with diet pills (ephedrine) so that maybe he'd understand that I had a problem too with addiction...his addiction (chewing tobacco) and hopefully he can understand how much I care for him. Anyway, long story short-sorry, if I emailed him with that info, will this make things weird between us or will it help the relationship, like us trust each other? What do guys think about that type of situation?
2006-11-27 07:58:29 · 14 answers · asked by feisty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I guess this is really going to depend on what kind of guy he is. Seeing as he has some experience with addiction, he would probably be touched that you opened up a little to him as well, and maybe this will strengthen the bond between the both of you, even if you guys are so far apart.
However, if he is weirded out by this, all I can say is that he's probably not worth your time. Most likely though, if he's a good guy it'll probably make him more understanding of you as a person.
2006-11-27 08:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by equinebeing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as quickly as a guy sleeps with you, he won't have a similar appreciate for you and he'd think of that he won't be desiring your friendship anymore, for the reason that he already slept with you.properly anyhow talk over with him privately and tell him to forget approximately what occurred and tell him to objective to pay interest on the cheer optimal strikes coz in case you men screw up extra, you will finally end up being kicked out of the squad. If this talk does not artwork out, ask your coach in inner maximum in case you are able to exchange companions. For destiny notice, sleep with a guy who you have an prolonged term courting.
2016-10-04 10:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want the relationship to grow then you will have to go through the stage of discussing those types of issues. The fact he is opening up is a sign he is getting more comfortable with you. You should go for it. Us Guys are more opened nowadays. It might be easier for him to do by e-mail.
2006-11-27 08:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by Litmus180 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was leaving for a better life--otherwise he would have stayed. Unfortunately for him, he choose to leave his reality. Before making a huge move, everyone has a bit of cognitive dissonance(second thoughts). He'll be happy once he gets settled. Don't distract him in this process. Plus, don't let him use you to ease his transition. Love must be tough.
2006-11-27 08:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Walter R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it really has to do with what guys think of the siruation it is about how YOUR guy responds to the situation. I would think he would be able to empathize with your addiction. I dont think there is anything weird about your e-mail. Friends discuss things that they have in common. I think maybe your reading way to much into a situation that isnt really one. Relax.
2006-11-27 08:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I understanding that you want to tell him to stop chewing tabacco? Get over it! How many more women will attempt to change a man into her dream guy? You overcame your addiction (not legal to buy anymore) and he is addicted to a substance that can be bought at any corner store. Do NOT tell him to stop chewing....his addiction is stronger than his attraction to you. He can find plenty of girls that won't try to change him....or even one that will chew WITH HIM! Or at least smoke....
But do what ya want.........
2006-11-27 08:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by moosie2026 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much of a true friend he is. If he's a real friend and he's in there for the long haul, he'll contact you and you guys'll be able to work things out. If he's a jerk and/or he's insecure and spineless, he will flake out and be weird around you.
2006-11-27 08:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how far away he moved, is it worth trying to make the relationship work? Send him the email. It can't hurt anything, anyway.
2006-11-27 08:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i think you are over thiniking this calm down breath this is soem very small things life will be ok move on
2006-11-27 08:01:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly, but this girl sounds a bit like a lesbo to me.
2006-11-27 07:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by Staceyflourpond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋